is it me or...?

Question

are marriages today a crock?...i mean all i hear is cheating and divorce and a whole buncha **it.How many of yous realllllly trust i mean my god its such a shame...whatever happend to how love upposed to be......commitment and trust and allll of that?

Answer 1

i believe that marriage is not the problem but the people who enter it are the real problem. why marry if you are immature, selfish, unprepared, uncommitted, etc.? go figure... cheers!

Answer 2

Been there, done that!
And I will never get married again. Besides its just a piece of paper that says your married and the woman legally can have the man's last name. And then what between a year to 5 years you end up going for a divorce that costs just as much as a simple wedding or more. Especially if there are children involved.

Now a days, relationships come and go, almost like fads or trends. And society accepts it?! The morals and values are shot to hell and how is anyone able to raise children with all that nonsence. Can you just imagine how it will be like when our children's children grow up and what will be accepted then.

I didn't mean to discourage you if you do plan on getting married any time soon.

Answer 3

lol The guy that supposedly loves me is out screwing someone else right now! What can you do? Some times you just have to say fu ck it and move on. Or in my case take the money and run. I will never trust anyone again a day in my life. The least I can do is take him for all he is worth until I have been properly compensated! He owes me and his daughter that much and I will make damn sure he pays what's owed too. Marriages are a crock, at least I am not married, I guess.

Answer 4

I hate to admit it,but you're absolutely right. The divorce rate is at an alltime high. People who get married these days give up too easily. At the first sign of trouble,they're ready to give up. I've been married fro 20 years ,and it hasn't always been a walk in the park, but if I'd given up the first time we had a disagreement,I would have missed out on so many wonderful things that happened through the years.

Answer 5

Love, commitment, trust, and the goal to spend life together is still there, don't worry. Marriage, after all, is still an institution by itself in our society. While there maybe a lot of things we hear about violations of the sanctity of marriage, the actions to preserve the same are seldom reported. Fact is, only the abnormal actvities are reported in the media (look at murders, for example), whereas the silent activities of doctors and paramedics seldom become newsworthy.

Answer 6

No---its not you. Its a sad state of affairs (no pun intended).There are a lot of married people who don't value the committment in the same way that their parents or grandparents did/do. When the going gets rough, instead of hunckering down and working through it, they want to bail. Hence the high incidence of infidelity and divorce. They should have like a one year contract or a 2 year contract or a renewable 2 year contract as an option for people who get married today.

Answer 7

I agree with you. I think there's a problem of self-centeredness today. No one wants to deal with disappointment and boredom no matter how temporary it is. It's a throw away society. I wish it were different but, you must remember, this is a site that deals with divorce and cheating. Nobody writes in to say, "Oh, I have a problem. I love my spouse and we are very happy". True love and trust does still exist, just maybe not on the scale it used to be.

Answer 8

You don't say if you are married but you obviously hold to some values that many take for granted or as nothing to uphold - trust, monogamy, honesty, and old fashioned, "til death do us part" love. Many many couples today - and I think many marry too young and do it so they can fulfill their lust - seem to be very shallow indeed.

But don't give up on everybody because there are many out there with the same values. If you are looking for a mate you will find one with the same values you have if you look for her.

Don't let the bad apples jade you into giving up.

Answer 9

No it is not you. Most end up now in divorce! I don't think it's marriage I think it the decision people are making picking out there spouses.
I have been happily and truthful awe struck and yes Married to my husband for almost 25 years, we really respect each other and love each other for who we are.
We believe in rocking each others world and don't believe in adultery, abuse, or changing each others value's.
We believe in morals, kindness and put each other before ourselves. Above all we believe in God!
Please don't be discouraged finding the right person for you isn't easy but if you are honest with yourself and take the time to pick the right one it can be spectacular.

Answer 10

I have finally found it. Just when I gave up looking and was content with my life, the perfect man appeared in my world. He swept me off my feet and made me realize that what I had felt for others before him was nothing. I now understand the idea of a "soul mate" and how easy it is to commit yourself to making a life-long relationship possible with that person.

Answer 11

not all marriages are like that. I've been married for 17 yrs to the same man. Our trust has grown to the point that I trust him to drive me nuts and he trusts me to go a little psycho every month.
I wouldn't want another man in my life,I adore my hubby.Neither of us plan on going anywhere.

NY?..hmmm...I grew up there.