Is my sister having sex with my husband?

Question

I told my sister that I thought she was having sex with my husband. and she smiled and said, "I'm sorry you feel that way"
When I told my husband why I thought he was sleeping with my sister he said, "Yeah, but you don't have Proof!"

My sister refuses to talk to me, she avoids me at all costs. She even moved and no one knows where she lives now. She tells my whole family that I'm crazy.
My husband doesn't want to talk to me about my feelings either. He tells me I'm crazy too. He gets really pist when I try to talk to him.

I feel like they are playing head games. Or mabey I am crazy.
Either way this feels lousy! I need a hug.

Answer 1

Let me try and make this simple for you. If someone you loved came to you with a life altering question, full of fear and terror, would you just brush it off or stop and make it very, very clear you love them and would never do anything like that to hurt them. If you are crazy it is because no one will look you in the eye and truthfully give you an answer to the question you have asked. Just try not to feel bad about what you are feeling. You feelings are yours and sometimes the need to be reassured. Keep in mind that if its not true, you don't want the thought to ruin what you are fighting for. Being an innocent bystander I have to say the actions definetely warrant some concern. I know what you are feeling and yes its extremely lousy. Good luck

Answer 2

What made you think they were sleeping together in the first place? Do you have proof? As for sis moving with no forwarding address, that is strange. You need to have proof of these things before you start making accusations. If your husband refuses to talk about it, then come back to it when you have solid proof of the betrayal. I'm so sorry you are going through this! Its got to be hard. Good luck! *HUGS*

Answer 3

I am sending a cyber hug and for your sake I hope that your sister and husband really aren't doing what you think they are~
I would look into ways that you can catch him and be very mysterious if you want to find out. Drop it and don't let him know what you are up to. Watch his credit card statements, mileage on the car, cell phone bill. Look on web sites to get more information on how to catch a cheating spouse, don't let him think that you are on to anything, make sure before saying anything else just in case you are wrong and make sure you have damn good proof as you can imagine if he is innocent how much your words or accusations can hurt him.
I would be careful and if you do get proof, don't do anything out of rage, plan in your mind to not say anything until you decide what is best for you to do!
I hope your wrong about this and good luck!

Answer 4

well i have been there , done that, i went thru same thing w/ my family, my sister sleeping w/husband, so i dumped him and in 2 months she was bringing my ex over to parents house for thanksgiving and their married now of 10 years & have a 6 yr.old daughter. I said they deserve each other, they made me nuts for years, but the truth came out & i feel like i won... because i was right..... my guts told me... go w/ur guts, not ur heart, if u love him, u will never find the truth... good luck

Answer 5

What a lousy situation indeed. One of them just needs to do you a favor and fess up if something did happen. Since you can't get him to talk, perhaps you can seek some marriage counseling. Even if he refuses, you can get a lot by being counseled yourself so you are able to deal with this whole mess.

Answer 6

Well your husband is right if you don't have any concrete proof other than what you are feeling than there's nothing you can do. But sounds like something is going on. Don't know if its with you are them or a little of both. Seek professional help to deal with this.

Answer 7

there fu#king you no when your husbands lying and you no when your sisters lying and the stuff there saying sounds like a bunch of bull **** you need to say **** him and move on because if he could **** your sister then best believe hes ******* some one else has 4 your sister ino your made at her but thats blood just you no better not to bring no men that your Fin with cause shes a Hooooooooooooooooe

Answer 8

look oviously he's having sex with her first your moves somewhere where nobody knows and then your husband starts acting weird and you're no crazy you know y because any woman on earth would think the same hey my grandma thought the my grandpa was sleeping with her sister and it came out true even my mom thinks that my dad sleeping with one her sisters.

Answer 9

Hire a private investigator. The idea that your husband doesn't try to comfort you is proof enough that you married a real winner.

Answer 10

Oh, darling, I'm so sorry!!!

Your husband...is not acting very "husband-ly"
I don't know what to say here.....but....maybe it is time to move on, away from your marriage, and away from your sister.
Or you can try to repair things with your husband...and then your sister.

Well I hope everything turns out okay in the end. =)