all she does is pay attention to the baby. she basically breastfeeds the baby to sleep then goes to sleep herself. the babys only two days old and it already sucks to be a parent. what should i do so she like pays more attention to me?
2006-08-29 14:14:24 · 8 answers · asked by Sweet 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You already asked this question once. Quit being so selfish and enjoy your baby. Your wife is very tired and needs her rest. If you can't understand that, then you don't need a child or your wife.
2006-08-29 15:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by mj 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Let her bond with the baby. She is tired from the birthing process. Don't be so selfish! She will come around....You can bond with the baby too. Ask her to pump some milk and you can bottle feed, or put the baby to bed. She is adjusting to being a mother. You have had your wife for however long by yourself now, and you need to understand that the baby comes first, it's maternal instinct.
2006-08-29 21:20:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe try helping more around the house,or doing other things for the baby like changing,bathing and washing clothes so she'll have more time-im sorry but you r being a little selfish-this is your child right-b/c your not acting like it-shes doing a big sacrifice for breastfeeding-that takes alot on her part-she just gave birth now after almost 10 months of carrying YOUR baby and now she has to get up every 2-3 hrs to feed-not you-HER-give her a break-believe me been there done that-if my husband did the things i mentioned i may have paid more attention to him
2006-08-30 07:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok your being a big baby.....2 days...grow up and stop being so juvenile. Why don't you join in and bond with the child too. Massage her back when she is Brest feeding. Burp the baby when it's done feeding. Tell your wife how beautiful she is when she is holding the baby. Tell her how beautiful the baby is and how she is such a wonderful mother and you couldn't have chosen a better woman to be the mother of your child....
Besides...she is not physically ready to have sex....but intimacy is not out of the picture. Grow up man...that is the child....your a grown *** man.
2006-08-29 21:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by BabyJ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. You're a father, and you can't stand your wife breast feeding your brand new child? Maybe she's tired from giving birth, or having to get up at all hours of the night to feed the child. Why don't you clean the house, or prepare the meals, or do something else to help out and relieve some of the burden? Maybe then she will have some time for you. Regardless, its kind of sad that your child is only 2 days old and you're already complaining.
2006-08-29 21:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by Wondering 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
give her time. its really hard on a woman at first, especially if its your first. breastfeeding also complicates things. it takes up so much of your time. and breastfed babies eat more often than formula fed babies.
i would definitely suggest that you try and talk to her about your feelings. maybe you two can compromise and she can pump milk for you to feed the baby with a bottle. also, you can take the baby and send her on an errand by herself. i dont think that men can comprehend how big a change it is to have a baby for a woman. but it is also a huge life change for the dad as well. she wont know that you are feeling left out if you dont talk to her about it. sometimes it could lead to resentment for the baby and your wife. and that will just make it harder on both of you.
when i had my first son, i was really hard on my husband. i felt like i was doing it all by myself. i felt like i was being pulled in a million different directions. it was like everyone wanted a peice of me, and i felt so resentful after a while. but, after a few months when my hormones returned to somewhat normal, it did get easier. but i never talked to my husband about the feelings that i was having. instead i was just mad all of the time. i wish now that i had talked openly to him about it. now that i have my second son, things have been alot better. he still doesnt help much, but im not feeling so abused.
i urge you to try to talk to her. but be careful. postpartum women are notoriously sensitive.
i wish you the best of luck. just remember, that you two are in this together. it takes learning lots of new skills to be a parent. they kind of teach you what you need to know along the way.
2006-08-30 00:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by lady beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you NOT in love with that precious baby? Moms and dads need to fall in love with their babies....maybe you need to bond with the little one and see just how precious it is and what a wonderful gift you have been given! You will be perfection in the eyes of your son or daughter....that is irresistable. Do not be like these parents who kill their children by locking them in closets or drowning them in tubs. FALL in love with your child and make it promises that were NEVER made to YOU. Then keep them.
2006-08-29 23:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by DA R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are being a little to selfish.. babies are something precious.. its natural for her to do that.. 2 whole days and your already complaining... MEN!!!
2006-08-29 21:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋