My husband and I have been married for a little over a year. I have always known that he was into the porn thing but recently it has really bothered me since all he really likes to look at are nude pictures of real women that are posted on the internet. If it were a porn star or something like that I do not think I would mind so much. Am I making a big deal out of nothing? If he is faithful to me and does not go around actually sleeping with other women should I just accept it? I just keep hearing all these stories of these freaky guys who have thousands of naked pics on there computer and they end up being crazy. Help me. (I have mentioned it bothers me and he really does not care. He said he is faithful to me and I should just get over it.)
2006-08-29 13:54:59 · 41 answers · asked by Princessd1010 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ow how I can feel where your coming from. This is something I deal with almost on a daily basis. They don't care and it won't change. It is absolutely making me a wreck. I sometimes just try to keep myself as busy as possible. I have been doing more with my hair and makeup and riding my bike all the time. Anything to keep me from even feeling the tightening of my chest from what this crap these few men feel they deserve. Good Luck and just know you are not alone.
2006-08-29 13:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by sonsweeney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-20 20:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't make a big deal about it If he stays faithful. I have been married a little over two years with mine, and he has a thing for adult babies. Most aren't very sexual but there is nudity. I do not have a problem with it at all as long as he doesn't waste money on it. He goes to free sites to read stories and watch videos and look at pictures, but it doesn't bother me at all because he is faithful to me. He knows it doesn't bother also. Just talk to your husband some more, but if he is faithful, than don't bother him much about it. You can't help how you feel, and you have a right to feel the way you do. If it gets worse consider leaving him, but not till. Worse means doing nothing but looking and paying no attention to you at all. That would be bad. If it is that far already, than I am sorry. Most guys hate the fake looking porn stars. Not all men like breast implants, they look unnatural. Mine also likes amateur porn, it is real, pro porn isn't. They just like visual stimulation. Good luck with it. I hope all goes well for you.
2006-08-29 14:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 00:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by ikeda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a guys response "just because I'm on a diet doesn't mean i cant look at the menu" but you are allowed to be bugged by it especially if he pays more attention to those pictures then you and if you don't think hes been faithful. Your not crazy for making any kind of deal out of it because you cant help what you feel on the subject like he wouldn't want to stop. I think you should stop and think what it really means to you first the real reasons why it bugs you and if you have to you a real legitimate answer talk to him as an adult about it. If he doesn't care about your feelings on something he likes to do then when will that start to effect you two. one point to make is that if he acts like your making a big deal for you to ask him about it then why does he make a big deal to look at naked women. if all this is harsh you could do what a sex therapist would probably tell you to do start being sexy and naked so he wont have to go on line to look at naked women. A sex therapist wouldn't be a bad idea.
2006-08-29 14:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by omgwhattodo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand how this makes you feel. Countless women have undoubtedly gone through the same thing that you're experiencing now... and it doesn't make them feel good. But... having said that... you were aware of the fact that your hubby enjoyed this extracurricular activity BEFORE you wed... so to try to change it now will only cause issues. I suppose all that you can do is express how it makes you feel and tell him that you hope it will not affect your relationship with one another. Would he mind if you masturbated while looking at other men?? Make your screen saver on the computer a buff naked man. :o) ha ha. Just kidding. But perhaps you could try to communicate about why he feels it's so important (even if it bothers you)... or you could try to figure out why it's suddenly bothering you now. Is your sex life beginning to suffer? Is he paying less attention to you now? Communication is the key.
2006-08-29 14:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend does the same thing. He likes to look at "regular girls" because he doesn't like the overdone porn look. It used to bother me thruthfully, but here we are 5 years later and he's still been faithful. Looking is just that. And wouldn't you rather he took care of sexual curiosity through pictures then the real thing? Untill he actually messes around on you I wouldn't worry about it.
By the way... if he's talking to these girls, too, then it's a whole other thing. The internet breaks up relationships every day.
2006-08-29 14:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by Smitten_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to consider the word "Faithfull". Is it really being faithfull when he's drooling over other women..nude or not? When you married him wasn't so that the two of you could become as one? Jesus said that even if you look at another person with lust that you've already committed adultry with that person in your heart. So at this point, does it really matter if they are professionals or not? Also, studies show that people that expose themsleves to porn actually alter their brain chemistry. It's kinda like a drug addiction. And, shouldn't you be concerned that eventually he'll no longer find you to be enough for him because of all of the images he's filled his mind with? I think you already know that there's something very wrong with what's going on. If you needed permission to confront him, then you have mine.
2006-08-30 04:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by Tyr_74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully that's all it is.My Husband use 2 do that as well he no longer does cause he had contact with a few of them he even gave them our address & phone number they called while I was at work.I told him them or me well he no longer has none of those pics on the puter & since then we grew alot & changed everything cause we bought a home & our phone number got changed cause we moved to a different county plus we didn't leave a change of address that was many of years ago as well in our 1st year this will be our 13th year married so things are alot better.Tell him to get rid of them cause yes they cause major problems.Mine wasn't sleeping around either but those pics have e-mail addresses so they can be reached no doubt.Mine told me 2 get over it 2 but being on the puter all hours of the day & nite never helped us heck I ended up beating the women up she came from out of state so you tell me how Innocent it is.That incidenct woke him up plus he quit drinking as well so some good came out of it.
Good Luck
2006-08-29 14:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I enjoyed porn long before I ever got married. I have been married now for 18 years and HAVE remained faithful. I just enjoy seeing porn, it's NOT that big of a deal. Men are visual and women are not or at least not as deeply as men. Relax, if he remains faithful, no problems.
2006-08-29 14:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by robert w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋