I had my daughter 3 years ago and due to complications with high blood pressure we almost died it was awful. Now I am preganant again and experiencing some of the same issues and I am scared that I will not be lucky twice. I am so upset I just want to be alone cause I feel no one can underrstand. The doctor seems to believe everything will be fine but they thought that last time. This is my last pregnancy cause I am getting my tubes tied but I am so frightened I need help. I am due to deliever by C section anyday now and the stress is really getting to me can anyone help?
2006-08-29 13:52:49 · 14 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
just calm down,, the stress isnt good 4 you or your baby,, im sure everything will be fine,,,
2006-08-29 13:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very stressful situation. It is understandable why you would feel the way you do. I don't think you can suppress those feelings or past memories. All you can do is do the best you know and hope for the best. You have had a unique experience where you fully understand what a miracle it is for both baby and mother to bring a new one in to this world. From my own experience (with out going into specifics, just know I understand where you are comming from, totally) I would say try to focus on what is right. Meaning, look at your beautiful 3 year old daughter, was she worth that struggle? I'm sure she was. This next one may not turn out how you hope, there is always that chance. However, there is also the chance that it may turn out just fine. That is what you have to believe in. The possibility of another blessing and miracle.
Did you have an emergency c-section with your daughter? If you did and it was an extremely difficult experience the good news is your next one may not necessarily be the same. It may go fairly easy. I know this from experience my first daughter (2nd birth) was an emergency c-section. It was really a traumatic, painful, horrific experience, due to all the circustances at the time. It took for ever to heal, it was way worse than my vag. delivery. The whole ordeal with the pregnancy and delivery had really scared me off to being pregnant again. However, we just knew we wanted another. So the next pregnancy was very stressful and sickening to me. I was scared to death to experience anything even close to the last one. We had started having some of the same type of indications so this time we went ahead and schedualed a c-section (instead of letting it go to an emergency situation). It was night and day difference. Even the healing afterwards was so much better. Night and day difference. I still think the c-section was overall harder than my first vag. del. but it was so different from the previous c-section. It was a huge relief.
I can't promise this will be your experience as well. But I just offer it for hope. My prayers are with you. Bless your heart.
2006-08-29 14:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by whostolemyprofile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray! Try some meditation tapes, relaxing music, lay on your bed or in the tub with the lights off, just candlelight, some relaxing music, close your eyes and for five minutes do nothing but breathe. I am very high strung myself, and I have to force myself to relax sometimes. Just lay there with your eyes closed and take deep breathes, saying "Inhale" and "exhale" with each one.This will bring oxygen into your body and should help you to relax. The more stressed out you get, the worse your bp will be, and thereby everything else.
If you cant find anyone to talk to, send me an email. I have worked for an OB/GYN for 6 years, and i've bout seen it all! I may not have been in your situation per se, ( I did have a long,painful delivery with my son 28 1/2 hours of dry labor). But I will listen and try to help as much as I can.
God Bless, and I'll be praying for you!
2006-08-29 14:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Pepsi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that the easy answer is to tell you to just relax and calm down but i know from experiance that is easier said then done. my first pregnancy there were complications with my son at birth, when i was pregnant with my daughter the closer the birth got the more upset i became the only thing that helped was looking at my son and knowing that things did worked out other then that you are not going to be totally at peace till after your child is born so stay as calm as you can and it will be over soon. good luck and congrats on the new baby.
2006-08-29 14:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by five2mother 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry you went through that, birth should be a magical time in your life. If this helps ease your worries, no pregnancy is the same, just because you had problems with your first does not mean you will have the same this time especially when your doctor knowing your past history is saying it will be ok. All else I can say is good luck and god bless!
2006-08-29 14:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by Courtney G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work in labor and delivery, and of course you're nervous. Anyone with any sense would be a nervous wreck. I can tell you that when someone comes in with a history like yours, we know about it. And you should make sure the nurses are aware of your history. We're always extra prepared, and extra ready to handle the unexpected. It makes us nervous too, and that's a good thing.
Most women who have had emergency c-sections and come back for a repeat say the second wasn't nearly as bad as the first.
2006-08-29 15:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by trivial 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 01:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who is going through the same thing. Your stress and fear is just making things worse. I know you can't just magically banish your fears and worries. However, you should try to remember that every pregnancy and every delivery is different. Perhaps you need to talk to someone who has been through this. Here is a website for people like you http://www.sidelines.org/ Also, try to pray and give your fears and worries to God. He cares about you and your baby and will give you strength to go through this.
2006-08-29 14:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Gwen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a copy of the book "Birthing From Within" by England. It is GREAT for dealing with emotional issues or fears reguarding birth.
2006-08-29 14:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
worrying about it so much isnt gonna help ur blood pressure. if anything, its gonna make it worse. just relax. if ur gonna have a c-section any day now just hope for the best. ur almost there. just think about how much of a wonderful experience its gonna be to give birth to ur 2nd child. good luck!
2006-08-29 13:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry too much, if it's gonna be a C section delivery you'll be fine honestly. Pray to God to calm your nerves every day.
2006-08-29 13:57:26 · answer #11 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋