Well I've been dating this guy for four years. Everytime I break up with him, he wants to get back together. I use to like him, but now all my feelings for him is gone, but he still feels the same about me(even though I told him how I feel!) How can I make our relationship to friendship, without ruining our bonding and friendship with one another? I mean this guy doesn't even have a clue. I told him if I don't feel the same way his feels about me, then he should find a girl who does. Either way he won't give in!
2006-08-29 13:51:44 · 11 answers · asked by sexy_ndn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
can't no way someone always gets hurt. you don't like him and all you are doing is using him move on let him go.
2006-08-29 13:56:13 · answer #1 · answered by basque girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no way you can break up with him without hurting his feelings coz you're dealing with human emotions.. it's alright to feel the pain because it's a normal feeling for all of us.. and the longer you kept your true feelings about him the more it will hurt him.. so tell him about it before it's too late.. and if he didnt accept it then that would be his problem anymore! i know it's hard because eventhough we dont like the person as a special someone anymore it's still hard to say the truth to them most especially if that someone loves us.. because we know that there's nothing wrong about their feelings toward us it's just that we dont feel the same way for them.. and sooner or later when you told him about your feelings he'll get over it, it may take a while, and he may stop talking to you but just give him space and when he get over it and when he's ready he'll start talking to you again.. goodluck! *wink*
2006-08-29 14:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by keiCh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same exact problem I`ve had numerous times ,ok tell him that you like him but just as a friend and that you feel it would be better for him to be with someone else who likes him the same in return(note:dont suggest it because he thinks your just saying that) ok moving on tel him that you`ll always be his friend and that you will never forget him but you both need to move on,tell him you think that he deserves something better than what your giving him. NOTE: now this is letting him know its not his fault that way he wont feel so hurt and he`ll understand and be very sincere about it.now go for it remember I`ve been in 3 situatuons like this I should know you need any further info email me
2006-08-29 14:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by cleanheart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop seeing him for a while when you break up with him. Like no contact for a month or two. He needs time to make that transition and to let it sink in that the relationship is over. Only once that has gotten into his head can you start to be friends again. Its essential that you have NO contact.
2006-08-29 13:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by ncladams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this guy will always love you no matter what happens he needs professional help especially when you said you only want to be friends.... tell him you love him as a friend and that you need the friendship more then the romance and that it dont work as a couple that your friendship has reached a point that it feels to wierd to be lovers then lighty tell him your gouing to start dating other guys. and that he needs to find some one who can give him what he wants because you cant and never will be able to. good luck!!
2006-08-29 13:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is tell him just how you feel, do not sleep with him or hold or kiss him or he will think your not serious, im not sure if you will remain friends as he wants a relationship not a friendship, but if it ends that way then you will have to find another friend, good luck,
2006-08-29 13:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow well let him listen to Chris Browns song Say Goodbye and then if he still doesnt get the hint then sit him down and tell hiim nicely that u just dont feel the same way about him like u used to and that u both should move on.
2006-08-29 13:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by babiedoll9264 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone always gets hurt ,that is the sad part about a relationship.He will need space to get over it for awhile.You are loved today and gone tomorrow.I don't think he can just be friends right away unless he has nerves of steel that's why he will need space and you should get him that space so that he want think it is hope for you two.
2006-08-29 14:07:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce your new boyfriend to him . or find him a girlfriend. Tell him you are busy all the time. you just joined this and this class and you no longer have time for a relationship.
2006-08-29 13:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Hurt is inevitable. It could be less-hurting though. how? SINCERITY. Better say it now than making it worse for you and him by delaying it.
2006-08-29 13:57:13 · answer #10 · answered by Tony BEE Good 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋