Was it one major issue, or a lot of little things?
2006-08-29 13:50:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that's up to you. was he bad to you .don't know .just take a day at a time .how do you feel .if you feel good then you are on the right track .at times you will think about it and others you wont . when i split with my wife i had to she was bad it was good for me and i just think of the bad things that went on in our lives and it took me a long time to get it back but it's cool now i got a goooood pet dog and she is my buddy .she rides on my Harley. go's with me all the time .may be you need a pet to help you out .it worked for me . you have a nice day. good luck
2006-08-29 14:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am separated now & in the middle of a divorce. In the beginning it was not MY decision. I was not given a choice, he just left. We have remained close & talk daily (have 3 children to raise). He is having some regrets but not enough to change the things he is doing. I, on the other hand, don't have regrets. Yes there were things that we could have done differently - all little things. Fact is we didn't & he decided that he didn't want to try after nearly 18 years of a good marriage. I am the one that eventually filed and can honestly say that it was the right decision based on our circumstances. Neither of us knows what the future holds for us. We both still love each other very much so there is always the possibility that we could be back together at some point. But, as for right now the decision was right based on the things that were/are happening in our lives.
Hope this helped a little.
Patty
2006-08-29 21:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by PattyW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am separated and it was the right decision for me to leave a loveless marriage after 20 years. I did try to work on the issues but with anger and control issues with the ex and her refusal to go to therapy and it was not worth having a f*ck-you marriage you have one shot in this life to be happy and trying to stay for the kids sake is not the solution. The only bad thing is even with her anger issues she got temporary physical custody of our one child which I been fighting now for two years. I believe it better to have my child see me happy without being emotionally abused and create a safe haven for my child when she is with me. It is really sad that people use children as pawns to punish the other parent. If you have children try shared parenting and a parenting coordinator to come up with the best arrangement for the kids sake because despite your relationship failure your parent child relationship is not the same thing. Kids need both parents!
2006-08-29 21:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am now divorced after a 22 year marriage and was absolutely the right thing for me. I have never been happier. He had anger issues that he just would not deal with and I cannot live like that.
2006-08-29 20:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lots of major things actually. And I did make the right decision. Seven years later and I have more now than I ever had married. Im a better person too.
2006-08-29 21:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One major issue.........infidelity! Yes, without a doubt I made the right decision! She moved out, and moved in with a much younger man. Reason for divorce!!
2006-08-29 20:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're giving details, you're only going to get the answer you want. So maybe we should just tell you what you want to hear:
1. No, divorce ruined my life.
2. Yes, divorcing the creep was the best decision I ever made.
You choose.
2006-08-29 20:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by georgia b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely made the right decision. I was very unhappy. My first husband was abusive and my second husband was selfish. I was extremely bored in my first marriage. My second marriage went bad when the sex was bad, cause it was all about him that is why I said he was selfish. I didn't feel loved enough in either relationship.
2006-08-30 20:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by curious_boricua_soul 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I divorced after 12 years of marriage. He loved me and I loved him. That wasn't enough. I needed to love myself. How could he possibly love me if I didn't love myself. He ended the marriage, but I agree it needed to end.
I don't have regrets about the divorce. I regret my marriage failing for my son's benefit. I miss my husband sometimes. He was my best friend. I will always love him, but I will always be thankful to him for ending this marriage.
2006-08-29 21:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋