I am a very shy person............
once I get talking to people I'm okay it's just the going up
and not noing somebody, that really freaks me out,
and I have this whole low self-confidence issue
I'm like a bigger, taller person 5'11 not telling my weight (mainly because it's too much : ) and I feel like I'm inferior to people not to mention that I feel like they judge me by how I look aka: hideous, overweight monster *smiles* anyway mabey this is a dumb question but is there anyway I could be more outgoing and confident????Anthing that would help change my negative self-image???
2006-08-29 13:49:34 · 6 answers · asked by bluegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WOW...been there done that. First you have to love yourself. Remember, beauty comes from within. If people are judging you by how you look then they aren't the kind of people that you really want to have as part of your life anyway. I know - easy to say.
I have always been a very shy person & have been overweight all of my adult life. The beginning of the year I lost 50lbs which has helped my self esteem tremendously but I still have another 40-50 to lose to get where I want to be and feel comfortable with my body. I have haulted the weightloss temporarily just to give my system a rest.
The one thing that I FINALLY figured out is that it doesn't matter what I look like. I am beautiful on the inside & that is the most important thing. I am still learning to love myself & working very hard to be able to accept ME for ME. I realize that is more important than what anyone else thinks. If you love yourself the rest will work itself out.
I am now in a job where I work with the public & at first it was very hard to have to talk to people because of how I felt about myself. I got to a point where I said it doesn't matter anymore. I am who I am and if they don't like me or judge me because of how I look than that is their problem & not mine.
You have to love yourself first. When you do you will feel such a sense of freedom & joy. I can tell you from experience it is the greatest feeling in the world. It does take work to keep from falling back into the old patterns & having the old thoughts coming back into my head. I battle with it alot - although not as much as I used to. It gets easier everyday.
Good luck & keep your chin up!!
Patty
2006-08-29 14:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by PattyW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not a stupid question they are many people who feel the same way actually I feel thesame way but you know what I dont worry about it becasue life is short and you need to get out there and have fun meet new people and take chances I mean your a good person and you know this and if someone tells you your not just brush it off and move on I`m faced with problems llike that everday especially in the enviorment I`m in but you just have to look in the mirror and love yourself for who you are and how god made you,some people would trade to have your height why? because their short I`m talked about and then from othrs I get complements evrybodys beautiful in their own way so just,be the beautiful person you are its okay to let go if god all made us the same the world would be boring
2006-08-29 21:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by cleanheart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop being so hard on yourself. You can't change how people see you but you can change how you see you....don't let others get to you they will always find something to pick at it's up to you to pick out what makes you stand out, all your strengths and all the things that make you feel good, focus on you not them, you have something to offer, always trust yourself not what people say. Smile.
2006-08-29 21:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by deadshscott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just smil e lot that makes people want to talk to you you could even say hi to some one and maybe they can strike up a situatiion mostly all you have to do is agree with what ever they are saying and then viola its like your in the conversation., and who knows they could be shy also i some times find it easier to talk to some one i dont know for some reason they dont judge you if they dont even know you just smile alot it works believeme!!
2006-08-29 21:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same way i'm not sure what to say to you but listen to the people on here that suit you not everbody and juyst realx and if you still have problems tell your mom they always help no matter how old you are.
2006-08-29 20:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
realize others are just as shy as you and nerveous...so if you make the first move it shows you have self confidence...just smile and be yourself...you will do fine
2006-08-29 20:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by kenneth s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋