In many instances I have seen and heard teenagers demand of their parents what their needs are and never once during that time consider asking of them in a polite manner. Why are todays adolescents feeling they are owed the better things in life and for never considering once working towards it themselves. I am concerned that this lack of behavior is vastly becoming the rule much rather than the example. Does anybody know why?
2006-08-29 13:48:59 · 17 answers · asked by Fresh choice 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Parents don't know how to say "no." They feel if they deny their children something, they're bad parents. So, kids are now controlling their parents. There are no consequences for their actions. Teens are very narcissistic anyway, but when you factor in spineless parents, demands get out of control. Since no one has ever said enough is enough, they just want more and more. At least that's what I've observed from kids in my school.
2006-08-29 13:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by a_soft_world 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I for one have had a job since I was 14 and whenever I wanted new clothes or makeup, etc., I had to buy them myself. I bought my own car and I'm paying for my own college education. I am paying for most of my wedding. However, I am still very thankful to have such gracious parents who let me live at home and they don't charge me room and board and they buy my food and pay for all the utilities that I use. They were very good at teaching me and my siblings to be hard workers and responsible with our money.
However, I have noticed that many teenagers have an "All about me!" attitude, and they just assume that anything they WANT (outside of their basic needs) should be supplied by their parents. I feel a little nauseated when parents buy their children new cars and the child is not even appreciative. These kids get off with totally disrespecting their parents and not even saying thank you for anything.
To answer the question, I think that it is the parents' responsibility to provide the basic food, shelter, and decent clothing until the teenager is old enough to get a job and buy his/her own clothing and other items above and beyond the necessities. It is partly the parents' fault when a teenager is spoiled, because...the teenager IS spoiled! The parent should have raised the teenager to be more grateful and responsible.
Have a great day!
2006-08-29 21:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do you remember being a teenager? We ALL thought the world owed us everything and we were more special than anyone else. Teenagers, in general, are self-centered and selfish.
On the other hand - too many parents today want to be "buddies" with their kids and buy them whatever they want. They don't teach the kids the value of working for things. Unfortunately, instead of being a good parent (which they think they are for showering their kids with "stuff") they are hurting them in the long run). So let's put the responsibility for rude bratty kids where it belongs - parents who are too lazy to teach their kids manners and a work ethic. Let's face it, it is harder and more work to tell a kid "no" and make them understand how they need to "earn" what they want than it is to simply hand them a charge card or buy them whatever they want. Good parenting is hard work.
2006-08-29 20:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by dddanse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are not going to like the answer. First of all, they are spoiled, and they don't get their little behinds spanked any more. The parents feel like it is their obligation to give them everything their little hearts want, including cell phones, CD players, all the CD's they want, car, computers, video games, etc. They sass their parents and use bad language, but the parents are still scared of being reported and just let them continue on being little spoiled brats. When I was young, I got spanked if I was bad, and belive you me, I was not bad often. I am not saying it is totally the parents fault, it is society too. The crap they see on television, the shows, all contribute to this type of behavior. They eventually grow up, when they have to get into the real world, and find out, that that type of behavior is not acceptable. So, guess you just have to sit and wait for that to happen. It is really sad, but just our world now. Most of them are good kids, but this is just the system. Like no prayers anymore in the schools, we had that too. Someone someday will say no more, and put a stop to all the nonsense, and put prayer back in the school, God back in the Government, and giving the little brats a good spanking and face jail, it is would be worth it. Did I do it, No. . See there, I fell into the trap too. I got one sassy one, and two that were gentlemen to me. The girls was the spoiled one, but now, a hard worker and on her own. She feels like she works too hard, but at least, she supports herself.
2006-08-29 21:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by shardf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its called arrogance, the situation you talk about comes from lack of self esteem, low self worth, poor self image or even possible self loathing in parents (not all of them) - this is how it transfers in children
if you dont use parenting skills when bringing your children up and set firm boundaries, the chldren used exactly the same tactics against you - far too many parents and even some teachers rely on old failsafes like 'im the parent, im i charge and u have to do as i say' and we all have a self image set by our position in relation to everyone else as a result
rather than using love, stable background and setting firm boundaries with adequate punishments and reasons for why things can and cannot happen (as it makes us feel guilty or we have no experience of it ourselves)
2006-08-29 21:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by tony h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of the people i know at school are just like this. Its because they have role models that have those kinds of attitudes and they are trying to be like them. I had a job until the resturant closed. My parents told me to take the summer off but i am so ready to go back to work.
2006-08-29 20:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just a living their demanding - they (not all, but a lot) think they have a right to own anything they want, say anything they want, get away with anything they want, and not have to work for anything. Personally, I blame all of the 80's 'ME' people who are now raising their kids to be selfish, manner-less and greedy.
2006-08-29 20:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We do have to support our kids while they are teenagers but I know what your saying. And yes we are raising a bunch of unrealistic, spoiled, and unappreciative adults to be. I can only speak for myself and hope others follow suit that they need a reality check and this mom will certainly let my girls have them on a regular basis.
2006-08-29 20:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by sonsweeney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's because we as parents give them too much. we are so concerned that their self-esteem will be destroyed if they do not have the same or better "thing" than little susie down the block. thank the media, social engineers and the whole political correctness movement.
2006-08-29 20:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by Robert A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason for that is too many parents didn't tell them NO when they were a child.
2006-08-29 20:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋