I want to leave my girlfriend because my feelings for her are too worn out, I can't see her as my partner for life, but instead I see her as a friend for whom I care very much. She doesn't want to breake up, she says she loves me and we've been together for 3 years now.
I think that one of the things that led me to this point was to see that she lacks some things that are very important to me (not physical, but emotional & intellectual). I didn't care before, but now it makes me feel empty inside and I wish to have someone in my life that makes me feel complete. Am I being selfish? I know I can't control my feelings, but does this make me a bad person?
I just need the insight of a perfect stranger.
2006-08-29 13:23:20 · 4 answers · asked by davidangelrt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, you're not being selfish. You are doing the right thing if you know she is not the one you want for your life partner. Make absolutely sure this is how you feel, then if you still feel the same - gently make the break. But do not be ambiguous, if you know what I mean. Make it clear you don't see a romantic future, otherwise she will allow hope to remain, and that will prevent her from moving forward with someone else. She will need time to heal and get past this, but then you are both free to find the one(s) you're crazy for, and who is crazy for you. In the long run, you'll be doing a favor for the both of you.
2006-08-29 13:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by milomax 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No your not a bad person. At leaset you didnt marry her. It's a good thing that you decided not to waste her time. She will not be happy with your decision now, cause she is on the hurting end but will eventually get over it with time. I appluade you for this, you know what you want and if that'sz not it thgen that's not it. so dont waste time if the feelings are not there.
2006-08-29 13:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't leave. You are just bored right now. Go make some friends hang out with friends more so you can respect your girlfriend when you come home.
2006-08-29 13:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to brake up with her if thats what you think you should do but make sure thats what you want because you could regret it. i know where she is comin from like 3years wasted but she should have changed,
2006-08-29 13:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Morgan P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋