My partner does not share the same views as me about the importance of loosing weight or to work hard to have a career.
Even though my partner feels it is good to loose weight but always the priority # 10 out of 10 things to do.
Focus & Determination are not in my partner's dictionary and concentration is always on Money matters, but does not like to work hard to make money, only relays on my earnings and just suggests not to help others.
My partner is about 50 lbs more than it supposed to be, no Job for the last 9 years.
Always like to cook/eat fatty food, thinks more oil in the food is more tasty.....
I tried many ways to convince that it is important to set a goal and work towards that to have a good career and physically fit.....
I am wondering is there a better way to convince.
Appreciate your help!
2006-08-29 13:15:50 · 10 answers · asked by Lumbini 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
It might be time to move on and dump the loser.
2006-08-29 13:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by parshooter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone you tell them all the wonderful things they bring to the relationship and then you mention 1 (only 1) thing that you can both work on together to grow as couple (exercise, ie) and you don't overwhelm with them with a long list of things they are not doing the way you wish because then your efforts to help them can start a conflict and instead of resolving a problem that needed to be encouraged toward a real, solution. And with weight loss, (not from personal experience as I am very slender and have never had to worry about my weight except losing too much at one time, maybe or gaining too much in the top) wouldn't it be like any other struggle? As in there will be setbacks, but it is not how many times you fall, but IF You get back up and you keep trying. You say Weight loss is the #1 main thing, not the lack of no career/no job, or even the eating and cooking unhealthy (which can inadvertently contribute too poor weight management)...so just stick to what is most important...and then everything else will take care of itself, IF you both really love one another. But, it sounds like you also need to keep in mind why you stay with that person as well. That is truly important.
2006-08-29 13:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Revise your question guy. the only thank you to unfastened weight is to devour much less energy than you burn. So in case you do not have time to exercising you heavily isn't burning sufficient energy to unfastened any volume of weight no count what weight loss application you circulate on if there is purely a million week left. it would take a hardcore exercising application blended with a low fat weight loss application or the low carb weight loss application, inspite of which you will possibly have the capacity to purely shed some pounds in a week. I propose you're making time to exercising and purchase flattering clothing?
2016-10-01 01:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as losing weight (not loosing, by the way) your partner is only going to do it if he/she wants to, and not because it's what you want. I would wonder more about the work than the weight, 9 years is a long time. Sounds like no ambition, maybe depressed. who knows.
2006-08-29 13:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but no...You might want to think about finding another partner...You need to have some of the same beliefs and it looks like there are none.Not only that it sounds like your partner is taking advantage of you by not working.Think about this...Think about maybe you would be happier with someone esle.Good luck
2006-08-29 13:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they have to come to the conclusion on their own..i am overweight and it took me and only me to do something about it..i am not on a 1000 calorie diet and i go to the gym everyday for an hour and a half..but the job thing..sounds like your partner is lazy and if you take care of them, then they dont have to stand on their own 2 feet.
2006-08-29 13:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking for them or for you? For their health or so they are nicer to look at? You should try accepting your partner for who they are, and letting the person find their own motivation and reasons for losing weight and doing more with their lives.
2006-08-29 13:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by paddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your partner is just mooching off of you, maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship. Does your partner help with ANYTHING? If not, think hard about what YOU want.
2006-08-29 13:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Israely Jew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. really, the more you suggest it the less attractive it becomes. Seriously. When a person is ready to get fit they will do it without being convinced of it.
2006-08-29 14:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by Simplystunning 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to change someone especially someone you loved. I think it's easier to leave him or her than change that person. :) Look for someone who is right for you. It's hard truth.
2006-08-29 13:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by ilovepepsi007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋