Well, I was abondon by my biological mom when I was a child, and adopted by a women that took cae of me up until I was ten. When I was ten I reunited with my biological mom, but through the years we never got along. Now it's twenty-seven years later and my adopted mom has paid a private investergator to find me. I'm so happy but sad at the same time. I'm happy to know that I'm loved by this women that took out time to find me. Then i'm sad because alot of bad memory has resurface also. I'm suppose to reunite in about two weeks, but i'm scared because of all the emotional feelings that I have. Would you embrace this moment? For the first time in my life I feel love and needed yet scared.
What do you think?
2006-08-29 13:10:28 · 12 answers · asked by butterfly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Definitely, because true love does not know time!
2006-08-29 13:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello ladybug,
Well this is two fold. Of course You can love someone after 27 years. Love know no time!! An love is not something you get it is something you give!!!!!! So the question is can you give love after 27 years?? Of course you already feel it!! I can tell. Second fold. My son is adopted and I can tell you now that if I ever lost him I would be lost too!!! Do you know the story of Moses? Well in short he was adopted too! An how the Bible tells it is that. He was born for a purpose! He was not sent to his birthparent and then dumped. He was put in a basket to save his life!(I have a feeling you where put somewhere to save yours too! in one way or another!) Then he was pushed by the finger of God to the Queens house. Where he was loved, provided for and a prince. He seen and hear things that could have made him hate and enraged! BUT God needed him there so he could fulfil his purpose! When he was a young man he found out the truth and is made him question the very fiber of who he was! What happened was he found out that he was a child of God. An that if he was to put all he had learned about life (in many different ways from birth and given family) into practice that he was full of greatness. He was able to love yet make hard choices. He was able to lead people with a gentle strength because he knew how hard life can be! He even learned to laugh at himself and let go of pain so he could feel how wonderful love is! He made many mistakes!!!! But that also helped him know that so does everyone else. Now remember she may look and sound different. But Love Knows NO time! Only hate know time. Because it has the ablity to steal it away from you!
Oh ya one more thing.God gave you a mind of your own. He will not force you to do anything. But when you do things his way. He says " He has not given us a spirit of fear. But of POWER- LOVE - and A SOUND MIND! So that is my pray for you that you will feel the power to over come your fear. The love that never dies and the peace of mind that can walk you through anything!
Sngbrd
2006-08-29 13:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by sngbrd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're going to be fine and that this reunion will be an emotional moment for the both of you. This women paid a private investigator to find you, my thought is that she's been missing you all along. Sometimes love dies, but in your case it sounds like it's just been stored away. Once you see her I'm sure your feelings will resurface and it'll feel as if they've never left. I believe you can definitely love someone for 27 years even if you haven't seen them...good luck sweetie.
2006-08-29 13:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Marisa Lizette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should embrace this time. Obviously the woman loves you, she chose you to adopt and has now spent a large sum of money to find you again after many years. She wants you to be a part of her life, and wants you to know that she loves you and cares for you a great deal.
Of course you are going to have conflicted feelings, and even feel a bit nervous or frightened, it can be very disconcerting to know that someone out there has such strong feelings for you that they would go to such great lengths just be reunited after so long.
2006-08-29 13:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by The Doctor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it, you'll never know what you missed if you don't. I was adopted and my biological mother found me when I was 20. I was excited and scared at the same time but met her. I would say at best today we have a cordial relationship. With me being brought up by my adoptive family, we have alot of differences. Just remember, emotions are good...It reminds us of who we are. Good luck sweetie!
2006-08-29 13:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by BRITCOURT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a shot - try to make it a positive experience. You have little to loose and much to gain. You are an adult now, the situation is different than when you were 10. This person will always be your mother. It may be to late for her to be your mom, but she can be your friend.
2006-08-29 13:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Paul K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to put you self in her place 27 years ago, and her place now. It's hard not to be selfish in doing this, but try.She is going to feel guilty and curious,as to how you have turned all that you have learned and experienced into who you are now.
Hey, maybe she just needs a kidney or something;)
2006-08-29 13:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Beeman11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parents true love never dies. That is who this women is she has not stopped loving you just because she has not seen you in a long time.
2006-08-29 13:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously loved you very much and went to great lengths to find you. Meet with her and it will probably help you work through all the emotions you have been experiencing.
2006-08-29 13:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur lucky,so many people are going around the circles just to find love but on ur case love is knocking at ur door. go for8.. dont be scared and cant wait to hear the dvlpments.besides i think ur old enaf to defend urself on anything so have faith and go for it
2006-08-29 13:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋