baby to soon?

Question

i want to have a an other baby. My first is 19months. I want to get pregnant on October or November but every one things is too soon.

Answer 1

It's whatever you are comfortable with. Nobody can tell you when you're ready, but you.

Answer 2

Ok - while I have the same advice as pretty much everybody else: as long as your significant other is on board and your doctor has no reason to object I think you should decide how your family will shape up.

I can offer something the other people can't: experience.

I had twins in April of 2004. I then gave birth to a little boy in May of 2005... yes they (all three) are 13 months apart. While noone would have supported this decision if I had asked them they are rather supportive now that they are all here and running around.

Yes things are very hard at times; I give up a lot to make sure that they are all treated with equal amounts of one on one time, that they are all read to, have proper meals, baths, and clean clothes. This is where you know I'm going to tell you that it is all worth it. You know this of course or you wouldn't even consider another child.

My only concern is that they are telling you that it is too soon as some kind of code for something they aren't telling you. Really if you did get pregnant when you propose your children would be more than 2 years apart which is the average age between siblings. Try to find out what they aren't saying. Are they worried about finances? The stress of another baby? Are they worried about your significant other? Your marriage? I'm not suggesting anything ( I really don't know anything but I can't imagine why someone would say that 2 years is just too soon.)

Best wishes to you.

Answer 3

Go for it if u think u can handle it. I have 5 and there's 1year between the first 2, 1 year and 3mths between the next, 1year and 6 mths between the next and exactly 2 years between the last 2. In terms of work, 5 is the same as having 1, but with a bit more of washing, cooking etc. (for me it has been anyway) U just need to establish a routine and u can accomplish what u want. We had a business and I used to work and look after the business and it was fine.

Answer 4

actually it isn't really all that soon. 19+3+10=32 months old if you get pregnant in November and that is almost three years of age.

My children are 7 years and 2 days apart. Everyone said wait wait wait wait
so I waited and waited and waited...then I didn't want another. After I decided that I didn't want another baby, she came. Don't get me wrong she is my angel. But 7 years is a lot. And there are so many issues with my son now. Have your children when it feels right to you on to other people.

Answer 5

there are 26 months between my two daughters(I got pregnant when my oldest was 17 months). I love the differences in the ages. People told me I was crazy too, do what you want to do, they don't have to raise them. I think they are closer and easier to take care of. Plus, my oldest had no problems adjusting to a new baby in the family.

My only advise is to not get pregnant in the fall, because you have to carry during the summer. Get pregnant NOW. Good luck

Answer 6

I have 2 children one was 3 in June and the other was a year in April . Its very hard work having 2 babies but they will grow up together . I think you should do what you want and not what everyone tell you to do after all its you who is having the baby not them good luck

Answer 7

I have two children. Nate was 13 months old when I became pregnant with Alex. If you want another child no time like the present. It was rough at first and you will need help but the two boys only being months apart is great because they play together and keep watch over each other. So if you can afford it and have the time to devote to two children by all means, DO IT

Answer 8

When your ready your child will be plenty older enough for a baby brother or sister. your child would be about 39 mths old by the time the baby is born.That is tons there is only 16 mths between two of mine so no I don't think its to early. All the best Good luck

Answer 9

No I don't think it's too soon. As long as your ready I say go for it. They will be nice & close in age so it will be fun for them to keep each other company. I got pregnant with my 2nd when my 1st just turned 1. The 1st year was the toughest, but it goes so fast. They have so much fun together & I love how they are such good buddies.

Answer 10

Waiting as long as possible is best for both your kids - and you. Here's why:

The birth of a sibling is traumatizing to a first born.

Your first born needs to be your one and only - ideally - for five years. Once your child has completed the developmental stages up to that point, then he/she will not be psychologically scarred by their siblings birth.

When a second born is born five or more years after a first born, they will have the traits of a first born. First borns are more successful and have many other advantages over every other birth order position. When a second born is born five or more years after, mommy will be able to give adequate attention to the second born.

In nature, our children nursed 4 - 7 years. Our children need very intense, close contact with mommy for that long after birth or suffer lots of deficits to IQ, social skills, and emotional health. The use of formula has made humans be born much closer together than they are supposed to be in order to get adequately raised.

The benefit to mom - lots of women say they like to get all that baby stuff over with right away, but there's something to be said for being able to focus, for not being overwhelmed, for getting a rest.

The ideal childhood is no day care, mommy's milk on demand, no hitting or yelling, gentle, loving guidance, lots of talk back and forth, mommy's arms as often as possible, and sibling spacing of about five years between each. (Ideal is hard to achieve, but something to aim for.)

Answer 11

That doesn't seem too soon. If get pregnant right away your first child would be about 2 1/2.
If you're healthy and not stressed any more than is "usual' for being the mom of a nearly 2yo, and your spouse is on your side, it is your business.