He gets really angry and doesnt tell me how he feels?

Question

I been seeing him for 2years. Ive always had a wall up with him frm previous relationships and he knws all abt it. I moved in with him, and now when we have a fight he often bites me and yells, he pins me down and has left really bad bruises on me frm the bites. He is distance, not close to him family. he never compliments me, or tells me how much i mean to him,and i feel like he doesnt care. I broke up with him but i have to live with him for another month. I feel like he can change with my help. but as soon as try to help and im notgetting the response i want, it ends up in a fight. But my parents know and they would probley disown me. Do u think they could forgive? He says i started this anger in him frm always having an attitude and never letting go. Could i have cause this? Should I try? Can he change?

Answer 1

This is the abused female syndrome. I can change him..Listen up, YOU CANNOT CHANGE HIM!!!!!! Move out as soon as you can. Pinning you down and biting you is called physical abuse. You cannot force a persons anger. The typical abusers response is always " I wouldn't be like this if you didn't make me". No decent parent would ever forgive someone who abuses their child. Leave, run get out before you are dead.

Answer 2

People don't change when others want them to. He has to change because he wants to. If he is a grown man then he should be mature and get help from a professional. It isn't your job to "fix" him. Besides, staying with him only gives him the message that it is ok to physically hurt you, and mentally abuse you. He needs to take responsibility for his actions and stop blaming you. It doesn't matter what you do to provoke him, there is no excuse for violence. There is a way to be supportive of him without getting involved to the point that you get hurt. That would be moving out, and maintaining a friendship with him at a distance..but it doesn't mean you have to take him back because he gets help. Your parents love you, regardless of whether they say or act otherwise. I am sure if you sit down and talk to them about the problem you can come to a solution together. You deserve so much better. Sometimes women can feel sorry for someone and try to fix broken people, it is the maternal part of us which makes us women, but don't let that compassionate side of yourself get taken advantage of. Be choosy about who you give your love and your time to, make sure it is an investment that will pay off in the end, and right now it looks like you are losing. Don't waste any more time, get out and start loving yourself.

Answer 3

Wow... sounds like a prison sentence I would sign up for.
Wake up! You can't trigger his anger, he just can't control it. You need to leave period. Why would you want to let someone know that it's ok to treat you that way. Break ups hurt then you move on. That's what you need to do.
And you don't have to live with him for one more month. You just need to leave and find a way to survive somewhere else. You are dragging this out by staying. Even with professional help, this could take years to solve. You don't want to drag that luggage around. Go out and find a man, not a male.

Answer 4

He is a lost cause. The chance he will change, with just your love to guide him, is Zero. Now years years of intense, invasive therapy could cure him and make him normal, but that's it. love is not enough.

It's always nice to hear yet another story from a woman with a creep. No matter what he does(he bites you..come on) you stay with him. Sure wish I could find one of you brain dead women....that I could treat like dirt and she would still love me, forever...

Answer 5

,GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE NOW. This man is an abuser and the biggest give away is he always blames you. trust me you can't help him, an army of psychiatrists couldn't help him, Please Please get out now for your own safety