During childhood, especially as one approaches puberty, it's perfectly natural - in fact, some people would argue it's even beneficial - to worry about what others think of you, how they perceive you, how you fit in, etc. However, I've noticed every once in awhile there are certain children who, despite the fact that everyone else seems to be going through this stage, don't really seem too affected by what their peers think. Why is this?
2006-08-29 12:42:57 · 20 answers · asked by JudasHero 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think it's because some people are so secure in themselves and who they are that they don't look to others for approval or to see if they're doing the same things. They just have more self confident and are more independant.
2006-08-29 12:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a doctor but I am a parent of two. My immediate reaction is that it has a lot to do with 1) what their parents personalities are and 2) how you raise them. By the time kids are 2/3/4 they have picked up these tendencies. Encourage your kids to think for themselves. Teach them to do so by acting that way yourself. Of course, birth order and their environment (extended family, school, etc) are going to have an impact that will be hard for you to control.
2006-08-29 12:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by Chuckleberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it comes down to basic personality traits. some children are more in tune with what others think about themwhile others tend to be more of a free spirit. as children approach adolescence, the peer group becomes much more important and peer pressure sets in. everyone wants to be accepted and part of the group.
2006-08-29 13:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some Kids are just stronger than others naturally… I know I was… and I don’t know why… so long as my family & friends love me… I really don’t care what others opinions are!!
Others have been taught as they have grown up: to 'Love & Respect themselves'... & that they are loved & Respected to… like my son!! That what others think of them: friends, peers etc: 'Really' does not matter when it comes to looks, build, cloths, etc!! As it is what’s on the ‘Inside’ that matters most… not what is on the outside… that wearing all the designer labels: having the top model mobile: money to flash: High Status: being the head cheerleader or quarterback (US) … head boy or head girl (UK): etc…. ‘Is Not’, what makes a person who they are!!!
2006-08-29 13:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by englands.glory 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everything you need to survive you learn before the age of 4. Then you start to pick up bad habbits from your parents, then later your peers.
Some children know that other people are much more interested in what you are thinking about them, then they are to be thinking anything about you at all. Did I get that right?
Your question shows that you are worried about what they are thinking about you.
2006-08-29 12:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a lot of times its the way they've grown up. also it has a lot to do with personality. kids who are comfortable with themselves and confident tend to 'not care what others think' of them. i was one of these children. I really didnt care. its a mind perspective. about 90% of kids worry what people/peers think of them at some point, or say they dont but deep down, they really do. the other 10% are kids like me, who, have figured it isnt going to benefit me by worrying what others think.
2006-08-29 12:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by 128333 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good parenting like I have breeds confidence. and the more confident and sure a person is, the less they are affected by what others think of them. I already know what people think of me, and I don't care.
2006-08-29 13:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by The "Spence" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different in their own ways. I gues that depends on personality. Like some people just doesn't care what others think of them, but the rest of the people REALLY care what others think of them. It's based on their personality, i think.
2006-08-29 13:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by jennthedork 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It stems from the parents and the development of self esteem .
Get your children into junior sports , football netball etc ,
it gives them a sense of belonging to a team , and encourages them to encourage others .
If you get your kids into sport they have half a chance
2006-08-29 12:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by kevin d 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they are self confident and don't need any feedback from others, particularly negative feedback. Learn to be your own person and ignore the slings and arrows of jealous and manipulative people.
2006-08-29 12:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋