Is my ex bi-polar or what?

Question

We broke up many times throughout our year and a half relationship because of his arguing. He will love me for days at a time then he will despise me and start arguing with me. If I ask him a question he will add to it and become explosive. He will tell me that he doesn't want to be with me and say things to me that can kill a person i.e. if he lived under the same roof he would blow his braiins out. Then days will go by and he will say hes sorry, apologizing, how he doesn't want to loose me, and how he was the one who was wrong. But then it all happens again. We are both 29 and im afraid that if I go back again it will never change and the heartache will go on forever.

Answer 1

Bi-polar? My ex is bi-polar, he has his issues, but he's never treated me badly ever, and never said anything mean or hurtful to me.

Ar you trying to justify this guy's unaccpetable behavior? Being bi-polar is not the problem here; he is simply an a**hole. He treats you like dirt, and you allow him. Why should he change? Why would he control himself? He dumps a load of c**p on you, and you still come crawling back, begging for more! Girl, get real! What are you holding out for? For him to change? He won't. Accept him for who he is, allow him to continue treating you like dirt... Or, dump him once and for all, and look for someone who will treat you with respect. Just realize that, first and foremost, you have to respect yourself - then you will attract people who will treat you accordingly. Don't be a loser. Good luck.

Answer 2

I'm bi-polar, but I don't think I've ever said I'd blow my own brains out and meant it. I can't make a judgement because I don't know him. I know that some of the things I've experienced are days of depression, anger, hostility, sadness, etc.. And then other days I'll be fine.. And then some others I'll be full of energy and talk more, etc.. Then apologize for the fxcked up things I've said along the way.

* If he's bi-polar, you might want to talk to him about seeing a doctor to prescribe some medications for it. We all have our ups and downs, but for people with bi-polar disorder, it's like the end of the world.

* Bi-Polar is highs beyond comprehension and lows two floors below the basement. But it needn't be doom and gloom, nor over -analyzed. Go with it, laughter is the only way out.

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Answer 3

You are right when you say that the heartache will go on forever. It does sound like your boyfriend is bi-polar. I have an aunt that is up and down like this. She will be over the top happy and then all of a sudden a few hours later she will be the same way you describe your boyfriend. Listen to your heart and go with what it's telling you. You don't need to put yourself through a lifetime of this. You don't even need a couple of more days of this. I'm sure you loved this guy, but don't beat yourself up for leaving him, you did what you had to do to keep yourself sane. No one should have to argue and go through that almost everyday. Life is short, you look ahead and see yourself a lot older afterwhile. Spend the rest of your years laughing and enjoying your life. Take care!!!

Answer 4

Sweetie,Yep I would say that he defiantly Bi polar and or something .But i would say bi-polar and if u truly care for him best thing to do is stand your ground and tell him if he wants u guys to work that he will get help and I don't mean one time thing it takes alto longer than that and he has to be willing to do what they say and let him show u he means business.Let him go and start to really get help and then go form there but if he backs out of the help now or in ther future then u need to step on out cause he may end up hurting u or himself or someone else and not mean too cause he really does need some help sweetie don't go back and think u can make him get the help that don't work either.I know cause I have been there sweetie and u can't save anyone from them-self they have to be willing to get the help just as if they had a addiction problem it has to really be there chose to work.take care

Answer 5

Sounds like he could be. Ask him if has anyone to talk to. Or recommend someone to him. You might have to find him a good therapist or go to the county mental health dept. they will have better advice for you.

As for going back, do not go back to him. Give yourself some rest. You might need some time to clear your mind and some space to him. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders yourself. If he is bi-polar things can be very erratic. Be supportive, yet be safe. You are right about "if I go back again it will never change and the heartache will go on forever."

Answer 6

"Sorry" but i sense some slight "insecurity" issues more
biochemical issues!" I,m not one to diagnose any type
of "Bi-polar "or" Passive-Aggressive disorders "But you
could be right indeed "He may need therapy "or' he
may think he's to "macho" to admit he,s having problems "Because { "Being a guy"} Of course; He won,t
feel as "superior" if he sits down to talk with you
about this problems."

"Also if he's using drugs 'or' alcohal "It might be effecting hi,s condition {"If he does have the disorder."}
and may be making it more severe.
"I would recommend some immense therapy if all
possible "Because "I guarantee" There,s something there
he,s not dealing with." Trust me" Something is eating
this guy up; "Hopefully; It,s not what i assume it is!"

"But; if you,ve broke up several times in the past i would
recommend you start fishing in a different pond to catch
a different fish:" Simply because "Nobody has to take
that kind of abuse."

"I seriously would consider getting this resolved "ANYWAY YOU CAN!" DO NOT PUT YOURSELF AT RISKS!!!! "Seek help immediately friend!
DO NOT DELAY!!!!!

Answer 7

no...that doesn't constitute bi-polar disorder though it may be close. Either way, if this was the case anyway why would want to be with a person like him. YOU DESERVE BETTER!! See if you can find someone else that treats you with respect and isn't crazy all the time and or doing crap like that

take care of yourself
cheers

Answer 8

If he is bi-polar, yes it will go on forever and everything that is not good in his life will be your fault!!! Get some help for you both...especially HIM! He needs medication NOW before this get's physical; and it will. Or...simply leave his psycho as*s now before it's too late. He's not going to get better on his own. So get some balls of your own and lay down the law...or move on. Godloveya!

Answer 9

it will never change and i think you should get out now!! dont think it has anything to do with bi polar,,,,i think he has got other issues and you might be in jeopordy being with him. why would you wanto to live your short life like that. worrying about the next time hes gonna burst out at you?? take care of yourself and leave him for good,,dont let him apologize and blah blah,,,,you have to got to be strong for yourself and keep your sanity or you could end up like him.

Answer 10

if he is bipolar and he doesn't get help, it will go on forever. Tell him to go to a doctor, e.i a psych. if he goes through Tri-County, it will be free.
Tell him he should get the help he needs, that way there will be less bad times and more good. If not, there's no way your relationship can last