He works nites for the railroad and he keeps coming to my house to sleep in the day time because his adult son moved home with his pregnant girlfriend and they walk around and turn on the TV and the radio. Go up and down the steps and wake him up so he ends up at my house. I have 3 days off a week and have to be quiet because he is sleeping in my house. He knows I am pretty much a loner and very quiet. How do I tell this free loading mooching son to get out to his dad can sleep in his own home and I can get my life back? I want him to sleep at his own house without hurting his feelings. The last time this adult child moved in with his dad, he stayed 3 years and mooched the whole time .It took a long time to get his bill collectors to quit calling in the middle of the day.
2006-08-29 11:59:47 · 10 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I work a full time job as a floor nurse in a hospital and I adore my boyfriend, but sneaking around my own house on my days off so I dont wake him up is a little crazy. I own a home and would rather be jammin to Mick jaeger mopping my kitchen floor and doing the dishes than lunging for the phone so it doesnt wake him up and sneaking around in dead silence. It is a problem for me too now.
2006-08-29 12:19:57 · update #1
I'm very sorry this is happening to you. I'm going to be very blunt about my advice so I hope you will take my advice with an open mind.What you need to do is have a very serious talk with your boyfriend and tell him everything your telling us. If he doesn't like it then that's tough for him. You really can't put everything on this son because his father has allowed this to happen in the past for a very long time. Your boyfriend should have put his foot down a long time ago. The good thing about this is that it's not too late to make some changes. I don't think that anything you will say to his son will make a difference seeing that it's his father's house. No man or woman should have to leave their own house because of freeloaders like this guy. Put your foot down first and tell your boyfriend that you have a problem with him sleeping over all the time when he has a home of his own. I guess the main thing you should tell him is that you have to be extra quiet in your own home and it's not fair to you. Your boyfriend needs to tell his freeloading son to get out and be a man. He's too old to be living at home with "daddy". He does this because your boyfriend allows this without putting up a fight. If you really get sick and tired of this then by all means just say something to the son. I know it will come to this point because you are going to get very fed up after a while and your going to snap. Maybe that's what needs to happen. I truly hope things will work out for you and this problem your having. Good luck!!!
2006-08-29 12:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to your boyfriend to tell his adult son and pregnant girlfriend to leave his home. If he is making other arrangements to get some sleep (ie, going to your house) then he seems to be okay with the situation and doesnt see this to be the problem you see it as.
2006-08-29 19:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely Lioness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boyfriend needs to grow a pair and have his son & the pg respect his rules or get out!
2006-08-29 19:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and just tell him...try to be understanding and say "remember what happened last time your son moved in with you?" and throw in a "i love when your here but this is getting ridiculous don't you think?" "you need to be sleeping at your own house this isn't normal..."
2006-08-29 19:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by gel_is_now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhmmm....considering it's his son, he should be the one telling him to get out and get a job and get a life! And you need to do the same with your boyfriend.
2006-08-29 19:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick that piece of crap to the curb, he is old enought o look after himself, i'm pretty sure that his father would appreicate that, might wanna clear it with him first.
do not take your boyfriend's sons feelings into account because he hasn't taken yours
2006-08-29 19:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh...you have a boyfriend that sleeps over and you don't want him there?? doesn't sound like much of a boyfriend. why is he your boyfriend?
2006-08-29 19:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is change a couple of things...your name and your address.
2006-08-29 19:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by cornbreaded23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do him, then kick him out.
2006-08-29 19:10:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what to do, takem out
2006-08-29 21:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by charlesxavierbennet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋