I love my boyfriend very much, but often when I am in the kitchen trying to prepare dinner or first thing in the morning when I'm in a hurry trying to make breakfast, lunches etc my boyfriend hovers around me, scrutinizing everything I'm doing. It makes me feel very anxious and self-conscious as I am one of those people who needs their space especially when they're trying to concentrate and do things. Sometimes I have snapped at him and said "haven't you got anything you need to do?. " . . He thinks I am deliberately alienating him and being rude and standoffish. He even said I was being selfish. ANY ADVICE PLEASE? :)
2006-08-29 11:58:50 · 13 answers · asked by gwibsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yep...when he's "hovering", stop what you're doing, cross your arms and give him your undivided attention, no matter what. Put down what you are doing and just stop...cross...glare...don't say a word until he leaves. When he's late for work or doesnt' get his lunch, he'll stop. OR you can have him make his own lunch and save you the time you're taking to help him out. Men are not subtle creatures, you have to sort of hit them between the eyes with a 2 x 4 to get their attention. Godloveya!
2006-08-29 12:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time he gets behind you and is doing his hovering thing, fart on him!LOL. sorry I couldn't help myself. I would tell him how it makes you feel, and that you are in a hurry to get this done. Also tell him that he is alienating himself by getting in the way of what you are trying to do or get done. You could also say hey I am glad you came in here and give him something to do, If you do this enough he will steer clear of you when you are busy. Good luck.
2006-08-29 19:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boy freind sucks Get rid of him now. These comments that he makes are way out of line. Waste of time this one. Go ahead be selfish. You are cooking for your family. Stand up and shout.
2006-08-29 19:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by M2J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT NOW! Really. I dated a guy like that and was engaged to him and it just went from bad to worse. If you think he's going to get better you can consider yourself naive. A bad habit is hard to break....if he's doin' this now, you can bet it's a good indicator of the future. He is what you call passive abusive....not obviously abusive, but definately abusive. You can't help him. He needs to discover this himself and work on himself. Few people are able to break out of this behavior....especially without outside help. Can you really imagine your whole life like that? Good luck.
2006-08-29 19:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by SeraMcKay 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my sister~ I dont know if you are christian or not, but I encourage you to either get married or discontinue your living arrangement. I know the world has made it seem like its ok and common place, but by living in sin, you open the door to far greater tribulation than just a micromanager boyfriend. Once the enemy has a foot in the door, he will create turmoil that manifests in your relationship, your children, finances, etc. He has no boundaries. Case in point, you feel like your boyfriend is invading yours, amen? It begins small.
God bless you and keep you...
2006-08-29 19:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you need to let him go if he is acting like that that means he is very jealous imagine if you guys get married and he does the same thing to you it will be to late to tell him to stop because you already let him know for the beginning that you are ok with his ways especiallly that way
2006-08-29 19:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by msstrawberryshortcake21 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
PUDDING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Pudding is the answer to like all the questions in the world!!!
So just serve him some pudding and then he will realize that you are your own person and that you need your space. But WARNING, he might begin to only love you for your excellent pudding making abilities
2006-08-29 19:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to put him in his place... consider telling him that if you're screwing everything up when cooking, well maybe he should cook instead then because there are definitely other things you could be spending your time doing like cleaning, and you wouldn't be hovering over him!!!!!
2006-08-29 19:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should sit down and have the "you're driving me crazy/ stop doing this.." talk. let him understand stand how you feel about the things he do that makes you upset. let him know that he's making you feel very uncomfortable when he's doing certain things and hopefully he'll stop doing those things.
2006-08-29 19:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by peaches 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just explain to him how you feel while doing something in a hurry and need your space doing so,not just fly off the handle.
2006-08-29 19:02:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋