Me and this girl had been good friends for like three and a half years is acting wierd......she was in eighth grade and I was in sixth when I met her but we didn't go to the same school.... but now that i am an highschool freshman and she is a junior she is treating me like crap.......she promised me she would sit with me during her off period and my lunch but just ignored me and i no she saw me ...... and I know her friends don't mind hanging with me.......she has always told me that i would b a cool freshman....... why would she act like this?????
2006-08-29 11:50:50 · 8 answers · asked by All Of the Above 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When you're a teen, there are many changes always happening in your life, and many conflicting feelings. It's just part of growing up and going from being a kid to being an adult. It's a very exciting time---but it can be confusing and stressful, just because it's so different and unpredictable.
Because teens's bodies and lives are changing so quickly, their feelings usually change quickly too. And because they've had less experience with their feelings, sometimes it's harder for them to understand them. This is all normal!
It's clear that you like your friend and want to spend time with her. But she may not feel the same way about you right now. It has NOTHING to do with you, or who you are---it's just the feelings she's having. She may be preoccupied with other friends and activities. Or she may just be confused about what she wants, or what's important. Or she may have strong feelings about someone else---maybe someone who doesn't want to spend time with her.
Unfortunately, in this kind of situation, you can't press someone to like you or want to spend time with you. You'll just scare them away, make them mad, or make them have other negative feelings about you.
The best thing you can do is just be pleasant, and don't go out of your way to talk to or hang around with this friend. If she wants to talk with you, hey, you're available---but you must leave it entirely up to her.
Instead, concentrate on liking yourself---knowing that you're completely okay, and that the conflicting feelings you're having are completely natural. And realize---even though it may seem hard---that if you obsess on one person, you just make yourself look needy. (And that can turn off even someone who already likes you!)
Think about the kind of friend you'd like to have. Would you want to hang out with someone who was always being googly over you, or someone who was worried that you didn't like them? No. You'd want to hang out with someone who liked you, but who also liked themselves. That's what makes people attractive.
It's also important to remember that your feelings are not YOU. They're just the effects of the chemicals your body and brain happen to be making at any given time. You can handle these feelings better if you:
_ Get regular exercise (it does a great job relieving tension and stress---for everybody, not just teens)
_ Spend some time relaxing every day, doing something you like, where you can stop worrying and just enjoy yourself
_ Remind yourself that you're just fine the way you are, and that you deserve to have friends and be happy (everybody does!)
Hope this helps. Cheers, ander
2006-08-29 12:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by Ander 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This happens to everyone don't feel bad. Leave it be for awhile and pretty soon (I'm not saying like next week or not even next month) she'll come around. Don't get to upset about it. She might be nervous about hanging out with a "freshman" and not looking cool. I remember how jacked up High School could be. I just went to my High school reunion 2 years ago and there was a girl there I absolutely hated in High school. We became pretty good friends after talking at the reunion. So don't get too down about it, you'll make plenty of other friends in school.
2006-08-29 19:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by kaylajoy28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a chance to talk to her alone and ask her whats up with the attitude. I mean, you dont have to hang on to her all your life now, do you. Make friends with other people..girls and so on, you can always have other friends you know. Is she the only fish in the SEA, DAMN man, if shes treating you like that, why torture yourself figuring out why shes like that now..ask her and just let her be. Live your life, be Happy and enjoy friendship with other people. You deserve HAPPINESS, dont let one person ruin it for you.
2006-08-29 18:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, why are you asking here? Why have you not spoken to your friend. Try this......
"Hey, sorry we didn't sit together, did something come up, or have I done something to upset you?"
Unless you two talk, all we can do is guess. Most of the guesses will be people who have had friends act the way yours did and they didn't talk about it either.
Communicate...
2006-09-02 13:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she older and finding her self just get over it and find new friends she iz not worth ur time.. im a sophmore and i still like freshman.. well a lil yall get on mi nerves but hey.. i know what yall r gonna go through.. drama drama and more drama. but cha she aint worth ur time.. and its also sumwhat un-cool 4 a junior 2 hang wit a freshman.. not that ur un-cool its just not kool.. lol.. sorry.. but cha.. itll be fine just find other freshman friends and ull be kool.. and us sophmores r kool 2..lol
2006-08-29 18:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by missshelby11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a ***** and she thinks your not cool enough. Screw her, give her a taste of her own medicine. Kick her to the curb. She doesn't know what a true friendship is.
2006-08-29 18:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by Noah's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
b/c she and you are growing up and becoming different people
2006-08-29 18:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Surf n' Snow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
foes.
2006-08-29 18:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋