I have three kids and we are already stuggling finacially. And I am pregnant again
2006-08-29 11:41:57 · 46 answers · asked by Lindsay H 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The sooner the better, she's gonna see it sooner or later.
STOP BREEDING!!!!!!!!!
I am about tired of people pumping out kids like Pez than expecting simpathy from others. They are kids not cancer.
Suck it up, you made your bed now ly in it.
2006-08-29 11:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by Big D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write it down and mail it. This way you cannot take it back or chicken out. Also, if I were in your shoes(and I currently am) I would also write: I need your support and blessings at this time, please no words of discouragment.
Second, you might consider getting your tubes tied after the birth of this child.
I only suggest this to be helpful. I am also a single parent of three and and my children all have different fathers. I came to the realization that in some ways, I was cheating my children out of the life they deserve by having more children. I am not in a postion of having a stable loving father in the home, or be financially well off to bring one more mouth to feed to the table, nor is it fair that I try to make myself cater to three children with one parent
Talk w/ your doc, there are different procedures you can have done to reverse a tubal ligation if you ever want more children and get financily set then you can continue on to have more kids.
I am assuming you did not make this baby alone. I can only hope that the father is being the man he need to be. If he had only one job, he need another, and maybe another if need be. If not seek the support you are due.
God only gives you what you can handle and maybe this baby was given to you for just that reason. Don't let others spoil your moment. Work hard while you can and try your best to raise your children well. Good luck!
2006-08-29 12:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by nene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her when you are ready. It seems as if you already know what her reaction will be. If she wants to be negative, let her deal with it. It is your baby and you don't need a lot of stress right now. One more baby isn't going to cost that much unless you don't have medical insurance. Let's look at the choices. Get mad and make stress or be glad and happy about a new little person joining the family. Your other children need to see from you and grandma that this baby is loved and wanted no matter how you or she really feels.
2006-08-29 11:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by linda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess she really cannot say much, as long as you are struggling without being a burden on her, then that is your problem not hers... It would be different if you were to be a burden on her with YOUR kids and asking her at all times to babysit and/or that you need something, etc., if that is to be the case, you need to back off and start taking care of your kids and not be a burden on anyone else!!! But, if that is not the case, then, you tell her you are expecting and that you have never needed anything from her and that you and your husband are happy and will move forward..
2006-08-29 11:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your new baby. Your mom could be not disappointed in you but concerned for you. Give her a chance and just tell her. Its not like you can hide it from her. She will love the new baby as much as the others. Just think about it as if it were one of your kids. You are her baby no matter how old you are or how many siblings you have. She has the right to worry as well as be happy for you.
2006-08-29 11:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who just had her 6th baby. Her husband's mom would literally freak out every time they got pregnant. You would think they were 16yo kids every time. They never asked her for help, have jobs, a home, but they were terrified of telling her every time.
But they did tell her and after she yelled, after the babies were born she loved them to pieces. She may get upset, but let her have her say, and then watch how much she loves the new little one.
2006-08-29 11:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she supporting you or something? Is she going to be financially affected by this? If not...just tell her...if it's not affecting her and she's just being judgemental...then don't worry about it, it's your life and your baby...we all struggle financially.
If she's supporting you and your kids and you're being careless and making more babies and more work for her...then do yourself a favor and quit having sex, read up on birth control and tell her over the phone so she doesn't smack you!
2006-08-29 11:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just told my Mom 'hey I have to tell you something,' she said 'You're pregnant, aren't you?'.... Don't worry, tell your Mom that even if you are short on money, having another baby won't ruin your life. If she disapproves, just tell her that you want to concentrate on making this baby's life (and the lives of your other children) as happy as possible, and that means having a supportive grandma there.
2006-08-30 04:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by redzodd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not something that you can hide....The only thing you can do is patiently tell her what as occurred and state something that will give her a reason to be optimistic that you and your partner will soon improve in terms of your financial situation. If you don't tell her NOW, she will fault you for telling her too late.
2006-08-29 11:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by cryingrainbow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may seem odd, but just say, "Mom, I'm pregnant".
Or, write it in a note. Just drop it on her spontaneously at some random time.
Better yet, wait until something REALLY BAD happens, like a relative dies or something, then tell her.
2006-08-29 11:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋