I have a girlfreind and weve been together for 2 1/2 years now and I love her to death. The only problem is tta of the 2 1/2 years 2 of them, have been long distance. I dont want to hurt her at all but i do have another crush and weve been talking and getting to know eachother better and I thin k i want to ask her out. Just to make matters worse her mom just got cancer and shes taking it very hard. How do I get out without hurting her that much(I know it will still hurt her though.
2006-08-29 11:35:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Whew, your timing is bad...but there is nothing you can do to stop from hurting her. It's going to hurt her, period. But it's best to be open and honest, with lots of empathy on your part. You have to think of it this way: by staying with her, you are keeping both of you from being in the time/space in life where you can meet the person you are SUPPOSED to be with. Don't hesitate any longer. It is a kindness, actually, to let people go when you need to move on.
2006-08-29 11:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two way you could go about this.
The first one is you could (in person) tell her that these past year have really had a strain on the relationship....and right now you can't handle a long distance relationship.
The second one is you should say I think we should see other people for a while because the strain of the long distance has had an effect on our relationship....I don't want to loose you but right now I just feel unconnected with you.....you would still be in a relationship but you wouldn't be exclusive.
Good luck.........:)
2006-08-29 18:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to be a man and be completely honest with her; if you are still having sexual relations and giving the impression that things are ok, stop it. Simply explain to her what is going on. Offer to help in any way possible regarding her Mother's illness; please do not let your g/f suffer more than she has to because of you. Also, if you discover that the grass on the other side is really not as green as you had hoped it would be, don't continue to hurt your g/f by making her your rebound woman. Take care!
2006-08-29 18:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by JEFFAVEGRL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to breakup. So just know that it's not gonna be easy, but no matter how hard it's gonna be to break up with her it's no worst then what her mom is gonna be going through with dealing with cancer.
So maybe she may not hurt as bad as u think because her mom comes first.
I just hope it turns out for the best for all and that she's dtrong enough to deal with everything
2006-08-29 21:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you can't stand the strain of the long distance relationship and you want to see other people. Then wait, be silent, and whatever she says say I understand and then hang up when it's all over an pour yourself a drink! You deserve it!
2006-08-29 18:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's pretty messed up man. Why break up if you still love her? Then again, is there any chance in hell that you'll ever be together in the same state again? Two years? Were you planning on getting married or something?
2006-08-29 18:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by bgii_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're gonna break up with her when she just found out that her mom has cancer? Okay, I don't agree with stringing her along when you know that it isn't working, but man, be her friend. Don't not talk to her anymore. If you guys were that close at one time, she will appreciate you being there for her at her trying time. Your new girl should understand.
2006-08-29 18:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suppose if you are in different time zones and thirty days between visits you can window shop and try out the goods. You can keep your social relationship with the distant girl.
2006-08-29 18:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by Horndog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her and be her friend, let her know the distance between you has cause much of the break up and tell her you will be ther for her in time of need just like a friend would be
2006-08-29 18:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say that its too hard to have a long distance relationship and that you like somebody else and want a girl friend that is closer to you and just say that it feels like its the right thing to do
2006-08-29 20:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋