My husband says I'm beautiful and sexy. But in the same breath he sees a pretty girl, who is skinny with big boobs or butt, and makes comments about being with her.I don't think he would but can you ever really be sure. I know he loves me,and means what he tells me about me. But he never makes comments about women that resemble me. HELP ME UNDERSTAND.
2006-08-29 11:26:41 · 15 answers · asked by dragonlady19641963 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That is how men are wired. They are visual beings.
That's it. Nothing more. Don't even waste your time thinking about it.
2006-08-29 11:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First the answer from Richard G is brilliant!
Now, let's do a little human male 101.
When people were few in numbers a LONG time ago, we developed an instinctive reaction to selecting females for only ONE purpose; to have children.
Our ancesters learned that strong and healthy females, produced strong and healthy children. The females also learned this; strong and healthy males would give the female; strong and healthy children.
THAT is why most of us are in reasonably good shape today and look good today. Thank our ancestors and their instincts.
Now go to TODAY. We still do this; it is automatic, we do not think about it, like breathing. BUT we are educated now so because we think (and the stupid guys SAY!...) these things, and we do every time we see a female, we do NOT do it. Unless we are a looser and you see them on lifetime.
I think you have nothing to worry about with your husband. He knows what beautiful women are, he comments about them all the time. Of all the women out there - and there is a LOT of them, he picked YOU to marry.
2006-08-29 18:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there could be a few reasons for this. Maybe your husband is hoping that you have bisexual curiousity and would engage in a threesome with another woman. Another reason is basic biology. Males have the ability to father thousands of children within their lifetime. So their base instincts make them aware of not just one potential mate, but many. Its only through the ways and rules of society that man has tamed his instincts...well, for the most part. However, if this really makes you feel uncomfortable you should probably have an open and honest talk with him about it. Ask him why he does it, tell him what you think and remember to keep an open mind. Don't get hurt quickly by things he might say, ask him to clarify. Take care.
2006-08-29 18:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by Tenshi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you SEEN other women? They're georgeous! He's probably trying to prevent you from thinking you're hot so you won't get ideas about maybe you can do better than him. Once you tell a girlfriend that she's "all that" they stop worrying about what you think, become secure in the relationship and stop trying to impress you.
And the things girlfriends do when they're trying to impress you are AWESOME. No guy want's to give that up if he's got a brain! Some guys even take steps to prolong that as long as possible!
2006-08-29 18:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's one thing for him to look, it's another for him to tell you he wants to be with her. If my husband said that to me, it would make me look differently at him. Perhaps it would make me much less attracted to him.
I don't think there's anything wrong with admiring someone's beauty, but when he begins to tell you his fantasies of being with other women, I'd look at that as a sign that something is not right with the relationship.
Good luck!
2006-08-29 18:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first he should never make comment in front of you that is so rude and wrong on too many levels. if he had any respect for you he wouldn't do that. second, why is he looking for more than a second anyways? personaly i think he sucks and i would never do that to a woman it's just wrong. if you are with one woman and especially married you should have no desire to even look at others. not convenced read the bible, tho shall not lust>
2006-08-29 18:32:22 · answer #6 · answered by sproket 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys want to be with e v e r y woman (except Oprah) . . . I do the same thing w. my wife.. Just because we look & think about the other broads doesn't mean that we dont love you. I mean lets get real here . . . those other broads are not making us dinner or cleaning up our houses . . . you are.
2006-08-29 18:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men want what they can't have. Men are going to look there is nothing we can do about it,. I guess that is part of being a man. Tell your man that when he stares at other girls that you think that is soo disrespectful
2006-08-29 18:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by confused 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All men do it, you can't stop that. But if he respected you at all he wouldn't look or comment about them to you, I think that is so disrespectful.
2006-08-29 18:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess I'm lucky, my husband never makes comments about other girl, unless I ask him.
2006-08-29 18:31:34 · answer #10 · answered by Tatyana 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋