It's not his fault most of the time so why am I so mean to him.He thinks i have a deep seeded anger toward him but I don't.I told him this but he just wants it to stop.How to I release my anger without hurting anybody?What do I do when I get angry?
2006-08-29 11:09:58 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes it's easiest to release our pent-up anger on those closest to us because it's safe.
I think your problem is pretty common.
Maybe you should take a deep breath, count to ten, take a walk if you need to. Learn not to speak immediately. Give yourself time to think it over - who are you really mad at?
It's just something you'll have to work on.
And if nothing else works, LEXAPRO works wonders!
2006-08-29 11:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by PMS 24-7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of things that you could do. You could invest in an extra pillow and beat on it when you get angry. You could go out for a ride to a mountaintop and yell. Or you could seek out a counsellor that deals with issues like these and perhaps they can suggest some techniques that may be helpful. You may also learn about why you get angry and what triggers this anger. Best of luck dealing with your anger.
2006-08-29 11:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same issue sometimes. I find that it really stems from something you are harboring inside. You have kept something inside that you are not openly dealing with and it's affecting you. It may be related to him, it may not. But it's something and you need to figure it out. Sometimes a therapy session or anger management class can help you figure out what it is. Is something bothering you? Do you have unresolved issues? Is there something that happened that you haven't really forgiven? When you start to get angry, catch yourself and take a deep breath. Try to relax and remember that you love your husband and try to divert the anger. Keeping a conscious mind about it helps and the first start to helping it is what you just did... seeking advice and help.
2006-08-29 11:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by jeneration Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would see a counselor. Not one that is going to dope you up, but one who actually tries to help with the problems you have. I had/have alot of anger problems, what helped me was my counselor helping me find diversion tactics (breathing, walking, physical activities). You need to find out what you are really angry about, and work on those issues. Your body may also be lacking in B vitamins. I take extra Bs during Pms, because Bs are needed by your body for balanced mind. Good Luck!
2006-08-29 12:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a bully and a coward...no offense.
You see there are certain things in your life that you are very insecure about and intimidated by and that frustrates you. But you are scared to confront them so you do as a bully would, attack the one thing or in this case person you feel you can control which unfortunately is your husband. It's funny because he indirectly makes you feel that empowerment but at the same time you have no respect for him so you abuse that power. Your fear of life is going to snuff out your source of acceptance and validation if you do not confront it.
Go to a place and write down what you fear. Look at it and critique yourself. Then take those findings to your husband and talk WITH him about them and work TOGETHER to find answers.
Good Luck
Phantom
2006-08-29 11:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by phantom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take up some kick boxing classes. And fight with people that can beat the crap out of u and make u look like garbage. The reason why u keep gettin angry is because u think u have total control over him. He wont hit u back and u know it. The way i see it is only hit someone that is gonna hit u back. Dont be a sissy.
2006-08-29 11:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to do something because one day you'll end up hurting him believe me. I went to counseling. At first it didn't work but then I punched him in the mouth for calling me "Crazy" then I kept going and now I can't believe How I use to be. Good luck. Try leaving for a drive but NO ROAD RAGE, listen to music, go to the beach and watch the ocean with your feet in the sand.. It sometimes works.
2006-08-29 12:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to know what people want to do. It's what they do. People that are happy, manage to have a good time most of the time. People that expect lousy, get lousy times. You get angry, because you like doing it, for some reason. If you didn't, you wouldn't. Yeah, yeah, issues. Meaning???" I can act bitchy and pissed, any time I want." You get angry with hubby, cuz he puts up with it. For now.
2006-08-29 11:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not alone all people do this. Those closest to the fire get burnt. This does not make it right though.
He has become your wipping post.
1st be more patient when you are feeling stressed .
2nd identify what is it realy that is pissing you off?
3rd ask yourself what is a non angry way of dealing with the real matter that is pissing you off.
4th If it is a person, realize that the way you tell them that what they are doing is pissing you off: may infact piss them off------THIS IS THE 1ST STEP OF BEING IN ........................... CONTROL OF YOURSELF!
Most negative and angry feelings come from someone or something exposing us to some situation that we have a weakness in and become out of control of ourself then we are pissed at them. Not for what they did but for them making us exist in our weekness and as are result becoming out of control with our self.
So Get in control of yourself!
2006-08-29 11:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it comes down to self-control and will power. If that's not working for you, there's nothing wrong with something like anger management classes. It could very well save your relationship.
2006-08-29 11:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋