Last night I caught my husband with my neighbor. They where on the floor of my house. I was in the shower, I came in and he was making out with her and then started to suck on her ****.
I have 2 kids with him a 18 month old and a 3 year old. They where a sleep when this happen. I have been married to him for 4 years. Do I stay with him and talk things out or do I leave him. I really don't know what to do. Nothing rude please. I really don't need it right know. thanks
2006-08-29 11:04:21 · 25 answers · asked by Jessica p 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so sorry that you are going through this. I would suggest:
1. Talk to a good lawyer
2. Take care of yourself and your children
3. Get some really good councelling, with or without your husband.
2006-08-29 11:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are the type of strong person who can really forget and forgive and is able to live with what you saw for all time, then by all means stay. If not, time has come to divorce and sue him for everything you are legally entitled to; the children and support are automatically yours, and move on. Its hard to get a marriage to work nowadays so you definitely dont need any extra help in destroying one. Can you live with your neighbor being around the area? Besides was this the first time or first time caught and what will happen in the future? This will always come out in a fight between you two no matter how hard you try not to. Time to move on . Sorry, and good luck
2006-08-29 11:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think right now it is too early to make that kind of decision. I am sure your a little in shock, mad, sad, fearful, confused and everything in between. Take some time, however much you need, and think about it. Only you know if this is something your willing or able to work through. I would ask him why he did it and if this is a new thing or a regular thing. That would have a lot of influence on my decision if it were me in the situation. If this is something he has never done before then maybe you can try and work through it. My best to you and your family.
2006-08-29 11:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would personally leave. You will never know how long this has been going on. For them to be making out in your house WHILE you were just a few feet away, seems to me that they are very comfortable doing what they were doing. You will never be able to trust your husband again and what is a marriage w/out trust? Good luck, I hope you make the right decision for everyone involved!
2006-08-29 11:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I really believe once a cheater always a cheater. If he did it once, he's going to want the thrill of doing it again, because thats what it becomes a thrill. Its def. hard to forgive and forget this sort of thing. So it all depends on you..but if you want an honest answer.....leave, you deserve better. Do you want your children to grow up and have a dishonest man that cannot be trusted as a role model???? Think things though..and stay strong.
2006-08-29 12:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave and think about things.That was low and wrong of him to do that in your house.If he cared about you and the kids he would have not done that ,if you stay your telling him it's cool to cheat and he will do it again.You deserve better for you and the kids. Don't be a victim move on with your life and if he really wants you back he will need to change and show you that he will become a better man.And counseling is very much need for you and him.I hope things work out for you,but don't stay just for the kids that never works.Good luck
2006-08-29 11:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is really messed up. Your husband has no respect for you because he did in your house while you and the kids were there. I can't tell you to leave or stay. I can tell you to follow your heart. Do you think you can forgive, forget and move on? You do what's best for you and your children.
2006-08-29 12:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by jessica b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T LEAVE. Kick his sorry *** out to the curb. If he isn't home yet, throw all of his clothes in the front yard and tell him to talk to you thru your attorney from now on. Get the locks changed if you have enough time before he gets home.
Take him to the cleaners. Get everything you can out of him.
Word of advice..............get his child support garnished from his check. That way you know your kids will be taken care of every payday, and he can't come up with an excuse why he doesn't have the money to pay it. Let neighbor dear go without before your kids do................
good luck to you.
2006-08-29 12:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by bmoline 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he'll do something like that somewhere that you can catch him he doesn't have much respect fr you. when a man cheats in situtations where he most likely won't get caught in the act he at least has a bit of respect for you. but in your own house!!! he doesn't respect you.
its hard to say what you should do since you guys have kids, but if you do stay you'll have to keep in mind that once a cheater..always a cheater
2006-08-29 12:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Bootylicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw the b****d out and get a divorced he did that while you having a shower omg come on here. Heard of men going to hotel to have an affair but not when the wife is in the next room. What is there to talk over about? what he going say hey it was only messing come on here get real here! I bet he promising you he never do it again once a cheat always a cheat in my book
2006-08-29 11:16:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get out of there right away. That is really gross and unexcusable. Clearly, he wanted to get caught. Tell him to get out, or you can leave with the kids if that's easier for you. How cruel and crude at the same time! I am really sorry for the pain that must have caused you.
2006-08-29 11:59:58 · answer #11 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋