I am trying not to have pre marital sex anymore...(this is really tough). It is my feeling though that once someone agrees to marry me, that it is okay to engage in relations. In my eyes, I think God would understand that a wedding takes place months, sometimes a year atfer the engagement. I think a "wedding" is just a formality, once we have become engaged in my mind, you are making a vow to that person before God to spend the rest of your life with them. Why should you have to wait just because society wants an extravagant ceremony. In the old days, you got married the next day!!
2006-08-29 11:02:20 · 10 answers · asked by O Jam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Basically, marriage is what follows the wedding. Judging by the religious standards, as long as you're not married, you can't have sex. Marriage is not just a formality, marriage is the confirmation of your relationship in the eyes of God.
2006-08-29 11:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by Cheshire Riddle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you on waiting being tough, especially if you have already had sex before. Marriage is only after the vows have been exchanged. So I think that it would really still be pre-marital sex even if you are engaged. If you have waited this long, I'm sure you can wait a little longer for the wedding. Another idea is to get married like at the court house, and when you get enough money or whatever the reason have a big wedding next year like on your 1st ann. or something... Good luck...
2006-08-29 11:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is a difference between marriage and wedding. A wedding is the a ceremony held to unite (usually) a man and a woman. Marriage is a sacred vow sworn in a church before god, family and friends during a wedding. It is also the state of being united to a person as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law. That is why sex before marriage is called premarital sex even if you are engaged.
2006-08-29 12:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by jessica b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is the vow before god and others (if you choose) to be only with that person and put no other above. If you are wanting to wait til you are married to have sex "again" then you need to wait til you take your vow Before God. I believe there is a difference. How do you know if the guy really wants to Merrie you or does he just agree to Merrie you for the sex. Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free.
2006-08-29 11:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by mrsmay28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with alomost all 16 of the post here. As usual you have presented a wonderful question lo and hold you got what I think R&S should be. Lots of people saying what they think in a specific & non judgemental way. Whenever I feel religious I go to Mass because I feel connected to a tradition that has been around for 2 thousand years I agree with the purpose & intention of Mass. However I consider myself more spiritual than religious because I find truths in several other belief systems. I am not a devoted Roman Catholic per se that said I would not switch to any other religion.
2016-03-27 00:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is what comes before the marriage. and the marriage is supposed to last for the rest of your life.
As for pre-marital sex, still against the bible..
2006-08-29 11:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by chuckufarley2a 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding is just the official ceremony, it's a one day event. Marriage is "until death do us part". That's what happens after the wedding.
2006-08-29 11:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by okmusic1968 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not society's deal, it is God's deal. God does not promote sexual relations until the couple is wed under the eyes of God and in a public arena. The wedding yes is a ceremony, but it is one to signal that you commit to your spouse in God's eyes; and to His ways.
Hebrews 13:4 "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. "
Sexual immorality is also sex outside of marriage. It does not matter if you are engaged, the commitment is not there until the wedding day happens. Weddings and marriages go hand in hand, there is no spearation of the two. So when it comes down to it, you have to decide...do you want the approval of God or the world? Your choice.
2006-08-29 11:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by Bible Trekker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOT! YOU ARE COMMITTING ADULTRY....SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE IS ADULTRY....FORGET THE WEDDING...RUN TO THE COURTHOUSE AND GET MARRIED BY THE JUDGE AND QUIT SINNING...THEN HAVE A FORMAL MARRIAGE ON ANY ONE OF YOUR FUTURE ANNIVERSSARIES!
2006-08-29 11:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm... wedding is a ceremony.
Marriage is a union of two people
2006-08-29 11:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by Shaken Not Stirred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋