My boyfriend wants to move in together and eventually get married and most definitely wants a kid. We love each other, he the most amazing person I know with so many qualities I want in a man, we get along and I could see myself living with him more than any past b-friends. He makes me happy--thing is, I know he's not my soulmate. I mean nothing is perfect, but there are certain things I want that I don't believe he's into. Mainly because he's a realist and I'm an idealist. So do I keep searchin for someone I'm really meant to be with and we connect on a deeper level, or stay with my b-friend who I really love, because it works?
2006-08-29 10:56:16 · 14 answers · asked by jobs1012003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I totally understand what you mean. I find that with my boyfriend too sometimes. We've been together for 3 years and are living together at the moment and will get engaged soon. There have been many times in the past 3 years when I've thought whether this guy is my actual soulmate or not. I believe you when you say you and your bf love each other and see you two getting married and having kids. True, nobody is perfect and my bf is also a realist while I myself am more easily led by how 'perfect' I want things to be, even though sometimes they're obviously not realistic. This difference between my bf and I has made me realise that instead of arguing over things, we complement each other, when I'm dreaming he'll take things into a more clearer and achievable prospectus, while when he's too serious, I can help him relax a bit more. I've found that this man really loves me for who I am inside, even though we may be different and if you feel that you've found someone who is able to treasure you in this way then stick with him. Afterall he is loving you now in the present tense, all relationships need work and time. I've found that I would not beable to find a better man, true sometimes we have some problems communicating but at the end of the day, I have accepted him for him and vice versa and because we both accept these differences our love has shone through. Keep at it girl! You have right in front of you a man who adores you and wants to start a family with you! Why look for anybody else?...
2006-08-29 11:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by babyface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are really over-analyzing things here. It really does sound like you have been reading too many magazine articles. Relationships aren't perfect, and they take work. What you need to ask yourself is are you willing to do what it takes to make things work? If you have the slightest hesitation or doubt, then maybe it is time to move on, but I would hate to see you throw away a great relationship (with a man who loves you) just because you are over-analyzing things and jumping to conclusions. If it is meant to be, then everything will work out for the better. Good luck!
2006-08-29 11:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Poopie Johnson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a wonderful man too. I could search the world over and not find a better man but I'm not "In Love" with him. I have prayed that God would change my heart but it has been 2 years and I feel the same way. I believe no matter how wonderful a pair you make you have to be "In Love". You can love anyone but I believe there is only one true love. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-29 11:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lonesome Dove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the one you love, because it really works.
They say opposites attract. If you say he has so many amazing qualities that you want in a man then he is obviously special. And he wants to move in with you, that shows he really loves you. Don't break his heart because you are a little bit different from each other.
2006-08-29 11:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by C-Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know- that is a tough one. If you love him, I think you should be with him, what if he is your soulmate and you just don't know it yet. What if that "perfect" guy never shows up? Good luck
2006-08-29 11:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time can tell...he maybe the one and he may not be.
I've date a different women in my time...even thou me and the are in a deep level there are many things we are different about.
But we enjoy being together. and have been for 15 yrs...
Check his level of love and devotion to you and go from there.
2006-08-29 11:03:30 · answer #6 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW DO YOU KNOW HE IS NOT YOUR SOULMATE. YOU SAID YOU LOVE HIM & WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN.
IS HE YOUR BF? OPPOSITES ATTRACT, YOU DONT ALWAYS HAVE TO LIKE THE SAME THINGS. IN FACT IT'S BETTER TO HAVE SOME SEPARATE INTERESTS..GOOD LUCK IF YOU LOSE THIS GUY & END UP WITH A JERK
2006-08-29 11:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm well i think if you love him stay with him but if your kind of sketchy about your relationship you should probably have a break and try to get your head cleared up and try to find out what you want.
2006-08-29 11:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by Daisy123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should keep going out with him but you might get tired of him
when you think your tired of being next to him all the time don't dump him but try meeting other guys (just as friends) and if you think one of them will work go for it!(but dump the other guy first)
2006-08-29 11:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by aybike a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
search for the almost perfect solemate. you have to be married to them for a long time!
2006-08-29 10:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋