It's a long story but me and a girl that I was crazy about had a huge fight recently. Mainly because of my jealusy towards her ex. She sort of led me on after they split so I got upset. She always knew how I felt, and now says we can;t be friends and to never contact her again. She was quite angry which makes me sad. I never wanted it to end like this on bad terms. I feel we were both to blame in many ways for things that happened, but the last few days I feel even more guilty and wish I could have just bottled up my feelings and stayed friends with her. The only problem by doing that was that it was stopping me from finding someone else. It hurts, but I realise that maybe this is for the best. She did say to never contact her again, but apart of me in time ( maybe 3 or 4 months ) wants to say how sorry I am for acting the way I did in the end. I feel hard done by too, but I feel saying sorry would be the right thing. I don't know if this would anger her more though. Any advice?
2006-08-29 10:49:05 · 16 answers · asked by Mr looking for answers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like she wasn't ready to commit to you. She still had issues over her ex. It is best for you to try to move on. Timing is everything in relationships. Sometimes jealousy is uncalled for, other times, it is your heart telling you something is wrong in the relationship. She knows you are sorry, and she knows you care for her. The ball is really in her court. Good Luck
2006-08-29 11:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by tobinmbsc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel hard done by, but still feel the urge to say sorry to her. In a way you are looking for some closure so you can move on. But do you really feel you should be the one saying sorry. If you mean it in time maybe drop her a line, but don't do it if you are looking for her to forgive you. She too will cool down if you leave it a while and shoudn't be angry if you write her saying how you feel as long as you are not harrassing her. If she really doesn't want to be friends then so what if she is angry.. If you really need to get it off your chest do it. You need to move on with your life so do what makes you happy... Good luck...
2006-08-29 17:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best thing to do is write her a letter and explain everything you just said here dont get personal by slagging her off stick to the facts and explain that maybe you could start afresh and be friends again and maybe in time you two will trust eachother again and suggest maybe meeting up somewhere neutral to discuss stuff and if she does turn up great if she dont you just have to move on and accept the fact that thats the end i hope i have been a help good luck!
2006-08-29 19:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Angie Cooper 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave her alone and get on with your life now buddy.
you seem to be full of self-pity too..........just an observation. Look at what you have got in your life , not what you haven't got.
Next time you feel jealous, it's OK to feel this emotion by the way everybody does, just watch how you act out on it. Try not to put it on others. This is blaming them.
I wish you well.
2006-08-29 20:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you should do what you feel like doing, life is made up of choices, and it would be useful to make your own choice on this matter, to be quite honest with you....you are the only one who knows what you really want to do regarding saying sorry or not...i am wondering if you love this girl or whether you are just wanting to please her because may be this is how you are with other parts of your life...but i feel that if you say sorry this time and she accepts your appology you can not go on doing this to her.
2006-08-29 20:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by merribelle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
say sorry! cos it really will make the girl feel better towards you, she might be acting as if she doesnt like you or seems to be avoiding you but deep inside she still might like you. a similar situation happend to me and although me and my bf are not together now we are now very close friends since he said sorry. hope it helps and good luck.
2006-08-30 06:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for two months then just contact her and tell her sorry
but make sure you wait untill its out of the air aura then she may not freak out when she hears your voice and will know you are calling with something to say
2006-08-29 18:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by intelligensio 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no dont go there she doesnt want u 2 contact her leave her alone,get on with ur life, u will get over it in time and meet someone new dont say sorry it should be her x
2006-08-29 19:14:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey man... girls would always love someone who's apologetic even thought sometimes they are in the wrong... It takes a man to admit defeat and to say sorry rather than someone who's so high in himself and too prideful to say anything. Do say sorry man but do not go anywhere further than sorry cause you dun wanna aggreviate her anymore
2006-08-30 02:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by Abel Blessed Lim 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should tell her that you are sorry and that you didn't want to end things that way, maybe you can still be friends.
2006-08-29 17:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋