Guys please help for some reason i feel as if my relationship with my fiance is coming to an end. I am unemployed Ive been looking for a job and hepofully the interview i have tomorrow works out. But the problem is that my fiance and i had to get a loan because I accidentally overdrafted the bank account, which was not a big deal since he got paid the day after. Hes been talking to me like if its my fault i cant find a job and i fell so terrible because even when i call him hes so cold and rude. Is he just stressed because now there is only one income?? Please Help!!
2006-08-29 10:45:29 · 8 answers · asked by Juliet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
In all relationships their are four things that couples fight over most. 1 - Communication, 2 - Money, 3 - Sex and 4 - Communication. It, communication, is listed twice because it is such an important part of all relationships. So communicate with your partner about how you are feeling and what you are sensing. He probably is a little worried over the finances as you have been living on two incomes. Best of luck at tomorrow's interview and in conversing with your partner.
2006-08-29 10:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Overdrafts is not any big deal. If he is stressed just because of this, then your future marriage life with him will have more and more and even more stress. There are things like house planning, insurance, house chores, car issues, child planning and nurturing, and many more activities and hurdles to settle in future. If he don't learn to pick up each problem to settle in a nice way, then chances are that you won't be having a good family in future . Can you consider to leave him ?? But if you don't decide earlier, then you will have to bear more cold shoulders for the rest of your life cos people usually don't change.
2006-08-29 10:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by dolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money problems always cause great stress. One of you needs to remember and remind the other that this isn't the end of the world. You'll find a job and things will get settled again.
Don't worry. Just concentrate on finding a good job. Lots of couples go through hard times. It needn't split you up; some find ways to actually feel closer when the going gets tough.
2006-08-29 10:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there kiddo -- money is the number one reason relationships (and marriages) end. It is best that you find out now if you can hold each other up through the tough times. This will not be the only time you have money problems and if you can get through this I will promise you after a mortgage and kids this will seem really small. It is best that you have a difficulty like this now -- I hope you can be strong for each other. Good luck.
2006-08-29 10:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Bummed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
enable him on my own until eventually he's able to talk. do no longer ask him a ton of questions because of the fact will make him experience attacked and he will circulate on the protection and be silent back. adult men do unlike drama and have a perplexing time speaking issues out. attempt doing extreme-high quality issues for him, purchase a loving card, make him dinner. See if that helps him open up. wait and spot. Be variety and maximum critically, be stable listener.
2016-10-01 01:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably not. your boyfriend is probably stressed over the situation. hopefully you will find a new job soon. things will get better.
2006-08-29 10:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by intelligent80000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not much to do on this one.it seems like he isnt taking any resposibility for his actions either. i hope you get the job, otherwise i'd find somewhere else to stay
2006-08-29 10:50:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Get a job
2. Get the hell out as soon as possible
2006-08-29 10:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋