my ex is mad becuse I didn't tell her for 5months that my girlfriend before her called me to and said she had an std . It turned out not to be true I didn't know what to do or say and was afraid to say anything to anybody in fear of loosing my relationship which ended anyways because i was afraid of sleeping with in fear of having something she is now saying she needs time and is having a hard time getting over me not telling her something that important. My last conversation with was ugly she said she was sorry that it ended like this this isn't what she wanted that this was hard for her to and she started crying and said that she can't try to work things out. I kept asking is it over and shesaid if thats what you want to here yes its over. we have not spoke since yesterday
2006-08-29 10:44:48 · 10 answers · asked by ctysunwk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To add in my defense people cheat on people and try to work it out. I have also been molested as a child and on top of that I was diagnosed as being bipolar so its hard for me to express myself emotionally.
I shut down even taking my meds I still live in a constant fear.
2006-08-29 10:47:50 · update #1
Time for u to move on as well, if she can't get over this, then she'll use it against you for many years to come.
2006-08-29 10:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by jelli_bean_36 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, yes being bipolar is a serious medical disorder and being molested as a child can have serious emotional ramifications. But you cannot use those experiences as an excuse for not bringing something so important to light as soon as it became an issue! You should have had enough faith in her to tell her instead of hiding something so big and dangerous. You did this to yourself. Yes, it is over, you need to leave her alone and not bother her. She has to deal with the damage you have done on her own and not have to deal with your interference and immature problems on top of everything else. Also, if you are living in constant fear, then first of all you need to see a doctor to be tested to make sure that you do not have an std. Then you need to get yourself to a psychiatrist for treatment for your bipolar condition, and most importanly, under NO circumstances should you EVER stop taking your medications!!!!!!
2006-08-29 10:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by rxtech05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, the possibility if giving her STD and you kept quiet? She could have been seriously harmed! It was selfish of you to put her at risk just so she wouldn't leave you or get mad.
It not being true is not the point. It could have been! She will not see you again. You have freaked her out rightly so. If you discovered you had AIDS you prob. won't tell your next girlfriend so she would stay with you and keep having sex huh?
2006-08-29 10:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by lipvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want it to be over and you have feelings for her then call her and tell her "No, I don't want it to be over." It sounds like she don't understand where you are coming from or what you really want. Tell her how you feel and from now on try to be very honest and open. People are more forgiving than you think. Especially if they really care about you they will stand by you.
2006-08-29 11:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by sharky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time to get through this and talk to her about both of you going for an std test just in case.And don t be surprised about her freaking out because its pretty normal for someone to react that way after something that life threateening was kept from her.
you must have apologised instead of asking her if its over.Thats what real men do!
you should have asked "will I work it out"
2006-08-29 10:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old "std" trick. Well, I feel sorry for the fact you went out with such a manipulative little *****. Don't ever let a woman do that to you again
2006-08-29 10:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm something as important as this needed to be brought to her attion at once! thats not cool you didnt tell her! i would be pist off and hate you over it because you lied and didnt think her/my life was worth it! how selfish of you. even if your ex is a lying biotch! she needed to know! im not mean i can understand you were scared...you know how i feel but i really do hope you can work it out with her...its clear to me that you love her!...ps. cut out the lying and it could workout for you guys
2006-08-29 10:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by pro_choice_my_right 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once had a friend that broke up with me, I was devastated and shock but until today, I learned to move on and you have to too.
2006-08-29 10:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch - move on - too many issues here in one question
2006-08-29 11:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if thats not wat you want call her and apologize...send her flowers...tell her you were wrong but you were afraid..if you dont care she said it was over then move on and who cares if she gets over it...
*get tested any way*
2006-08-29 10:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by gel_is_now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋