Should I Stay or Leave?

Question

my b/f cheated on me (not the first time), and says he promise it want happen again (liar). i plan on moving back to my hometown and start over again. i love him, but a person can only take so much. the girl said she was pregnant for him with twins (not true) she just happen to have an accident and lost them, what about that.

Answer 1

Girl....you know you should leave.

Answer 2

At least take some time apart, space will help you clear your head too. Cheaters can change if they want to, all this once a cheater always a cheater stuff is rubbish... But if the trust is well and truly gone then what is left. You may love him, but you need more than love and you deserve better.... You don't need the heartache trust me. Go home for a while, spend time with friends, get out and about. Good luck to you

Answer 3

The girl he cheated with was the type that thinks you can keep a man by trapping him with children. But that's just not true, if he wants to stay he will and if he doesnt then kids are not going to keep him around. As for you, what does he do for your that you cant do for yourself? He obviously doesnt respect you. Why cant you respect and value yourself enough to know that you deserve better? Leave him, and dont look back. Trust me, you'll be much happier!

Answer 4

When you ask that question, you're not done. When you get fed up, nothing in the world he can say or do will change your mind. Everyone has a breaking point. When you get there, you won't need any advice. Here's a heads up though-he's gonna keep doing it because, by taking him back each time, he knows he can get away with it. Your Mr. Right is out there, but you got this fool blocking his path to you. I hope you get fed up soon! Good Luck!

Answer 5

One time, shame on him. Two or more times, shame on you!
If he did it once and said he wouldn't do it again and meant it, he would'nt have done it again.
I would leave him alone cause he doesn't sound like he is ready to committ to one person. It's obvious this guy's a loser!
I am sure you care for him but self respect is more important, you are more important!
If you continue in this way, (cause he's not ready to change yet and he might not ever change) your self esteem would be so warn down that you will just accept anything. Claim back your self respect, do not accept!

Answer 6

Hon, you just answered your own question. You are planning on leaving and trust me, that is your best decision! You may think you love him but he is a good for nothing loser if he cheats on you. You deserve real love and respect, you are more than worth it. Forget that other chick, she's just stupid and even more importantly forget this guy- he's nothing but a waste of your time and energy. Move on kiddo! There are plenty of other fish in the sea!!!

Answer 7

point being.. he cheats on you. With psycho lying chicks too. He doesn't even have the sense to pick a normal chick to cheat with. Dump the freak! He will cheat again and gain and again!

Answer 8

Well if you stay with him you are simply telling him and yourself that you are not worthy of a decent realtionship. He doesnt respect you and he wont learn to do so. He just wants what he cannot have. I would move and not look back.

Answer 9

Sweetie, I think if he cheated on ya to the point she was supposedly pregnant then he most likely did it more than once.And it sounds like to me that him and her are meant for each other.Find someone else that will be true to u.

Answer 10

Honey, you deserve much better than you are receiving from this guy. He has cheated on you more than once, you have not a lick of trust for him, I doubt you like him, so do you really love him or are you just familiar with him and are use to being with him? I think you should most defenently go! Get out and start a new life for yourself. Allow yourself to heal from this man's betrayals of you before you enter another relationship. If you don't you will take your hurt, anger, and distrust into the next relationship and that new man will suffer for the sins of another. You will suffer too as it is difficult to sustain a relationship with the ghost of the past in your face every single day.

We all deserve to be with a person who will treat us with love, respect and honor, how we treat others. I will tell you that others are likely to treat us the way we treat ourselves. If we do not treat ourselves with honor and respect, others will see this and believe we will allow them to treat us this way as well. They are usually correct in this assumption too. If you have a strong since of who you are and stand up for that person, others will follow suit. Don't allow others to treat you poorly. You do this by treating yourself well, by setting bounderies, not allowing others to cross those bounderies, and above all by loving oursleves.

These things are easier said than done. I am forty three years old and have grown much over the course of my life. I once allowed others to treat me poorly. I did not believe I desserved anything better so I took it. When others saw how I allowed myself to be treated, they followed suit. It took me a while to realize I treated others far better than I treated myself, that I was worthy of better treatment. I began to stop being around those who were the worst offenders and slowly cut out others as well. Today I have a full life filled with love of my children, family and a wonderfull man who believes the sun shines on my face everyday. I am not saying there is not hardships in my life, but life is so much better now I care about myself. I refused to settle for any who would treat me poorly. By refusing to settle, by being willing to be alone while I waited for the right man, I am now getting married for the first time in ten years to the most wonderful man I have ever met. I regrett nothing in my life,except the death of my son. All the hardships I went through is what helped form who I am today.

Be gental with yourself, treat yourself kindly, kick that man to the curb, kick all who mistreat you, use you or abuse you to the curb. It is far easier and less painfull in the long run to be lonely, than to be mistreated. Trust me, I know. I wish you much happiness always, Blessed Be.

Answer 11

Lies, Lies, Lies. Is this how you wan to live your life? You decide what you really want and how to make that happen. Is the life you want with this man? Do you see a future (seriously)? Make the best decision based on what YOU want.