Let me make this clear I am not cheatin?

Question

Is a serious frienship on line wrong for a married or commited person to have

Answer 1

gud question. depends on how "serious" the friendsship gets in regards to how intimate the chats get. intimacy doesnt have to be physical, its the emotional intimacy thats just as much part of the marriage vow as the physical. i wudnt want my wife to share her inner most feelings with anyone except me. her weaknesses, fears, and strengths and joys shud be reserved for our time together, not with a stranger online. thats not to say that we both cant and do have friends on line. but ya gotta be realistic, this is more entertainment then true friendship. it can definitely evolve into real friendship with real face time, but in general, most online friendships stay that way, online.

so is it cheating? again, depends on the depth on intimacy.

Answer 2

To determine if you are cheating or not, simply remove the computer from the picture. Imagine every meeting online with them, took place instead in a cafe, park, or bedroom.

Would you feel differently about your relationship then? Would the things you discuss make you feel guilty? If so, then you shouldn't be doing it.

I've been the cheated so many times I will never be the cheater. And I know that on the cheated end... it doesn't take much to get hurt. If your partner knows about the relationship, and doesn't feel comfortable... you need to take that into consideration. How would you feel if he/she spent their time talking seriously to someone of the opposite sex? And don't say you wouldn't care just because you are doing it yourself.

Talk to your partner, if you can't come to a compromise, you may have to choose one or the other.

Answer 3

It's absolutely wrong. If you wouldn't want HER doing what you're doing, then you shouldn't be doing it either. Anything you have to hide, feel guilty about, or otherwise causes sneaking around is WRONG. It may not constitute "cheating" in the traditional sense of the word, but it's wrong for the same reasons and it can be just as hurtful.

Stop it!

Answer 4

It depends. Is this a male or female friend? Do you talk about intimate things? Do you talk to him about things you can't talk to your husband about? Does your husband know about it? If so, what does he think?

I think any time a person of the opposite sex that takes time away from your husband isn't a good thing.

Would you say or do anything with this person you wouldn't want your husband to know about? If so, then YES it's cheating.

Answer 5

What do you mean by serious? Are you already married and what do you plan on doing live in Utah where you can get married again or what? Put yourself in their shoes. Would you consider that cheating if they did that to you?

Answer 6

if your husband knows about the friend and approves, and it isnt intimate enough to where you are talking about a relationship or sex or anything of the such...then its ok to have the friend, but if you are hiding it and do have cybersex or anything of the such that is too intimate, then yes, you are emotionally cheating on your husband. Would you want your husband to do that to you? How would you feel?

Answer 7

Not at all! In fact I think it's a good thing as long as it stays a friendship and soesn't become more.

Answer 8

I don't think it is wrong at all. I too have a very good friend that I chat with online.

Answer 9

I say it's up to your husband. I say he is the one who gets to set the rules for what is okay for you and your heart and body. If he's okay with a friendship online, or with this particular friendship because it's only a friendship, then it's fine, but if he's not okay with it, then it's not okay.

Answer 10

As long as your are not talking about sex or constantly flirting with them. There should be nothing sexual about it. If there is, then it is most definitely wrong!