Well i'm 15 and my gf is 16 and she is 3 months pregnant. We have been dating for 2 months and she did tell me when we first met she was not a virgin. Well i've been telling her that her stomach looks bigger than average and now she got a pregnacy test yesterday and it came out positive. She called me crying thinking i was about to break up with her, but i didn't becuz i love her so much(well i really don't know wat love is yet). I told her i would still give her a chance becuz we just click so good together. I also told her i would be their for her and the baby the most i could. Am i wrong for staying with her? She is pregnant by her ex that shes was with for a year, but he abused her. But know i'm afraid to tell my parents my gf is not only pregnant but by someone else.
2006-08-29 10:33:38 · 19 answers · asked by big boi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have a very hard decision to make. You are only 15. Are you really ready to take responsibility for a child that is not yours? Your girlfriend needs to talk to the father of her child and make him step up and take responsibility for it. That is not your obligation.
If you were my son, I would advise you to extricate yourself from this situation as soon as possible. You can still be friends with her but you are too young to be saddled with a life long responsibility that isn't really yours.
2006-08-29 10:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats a hard one. I have to say though that she has no right to put this on you. This is not your baby to be responsible for . You are only 15. You have a lot to look forward too. She choose to have sex and she must deal with the consiquences. I am not trying to be cold, but if you stay with her realize there isn't much you can do for her. You can't support her. You are just a kid. also like I said this is not your responciblity because this is not your kid. If she doesn't realize this then that is wrong of her. In the end this is your decision. Just make the right choice. Just remember you don't even know if you love this girl. The longer you wait the harder it will be. Take it easy kid.
2006-08-29 10:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by Vthokie25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what? Oh so because she is preganant she is a different person right? NO! If you like her now that shouldnt change just cause she has/is having a baby. Telling your parents that can be touchy, but be honest and up front people deal with what they know better than what they dont know, oh clarify to your parents that you are not the father too. GOOD LUCK! And if you do decide to stick around I commend you men double your age dont even think to do that, so you must be a good catch, tell her I said she is lucky.
2006-08-29 10:42:24 · answer #3 · answered by nmaponte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your a brave guy. But get ready because things might turn ugly, and she might need you by her side, but you must really understand that if you decide to stand by her side, it's your responsibility, and your choice.
You're not wrong in staying with her if you really like her. But you must not think that you're obligated. it's a hard decision you're making, and you really don't know much about your gf. Her telling you that she was not a virgin was good :)
You probably won't like your parent's response, but you will need to tell them.
And well, you must not feel pressured into marrying her. You can be at her side during the pregnancy, and let time take it's course, and later marry her when you think you're ready and you feel that you really love her.
Good luck!
2006-08-29 10:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that a really tough situation, but in the end the choice is yours to make. And it's one you should consider for awhile. I think it's great that you are supporting her as a friend and a boyfriend. She will need all the support she can get. Raising a child is really hard, let alone trying to do it in HS. And she will probably have lots of problem (with other people) along the way. And even if later on you to decide not to date, it would be really awesome of you two to still stay friends.
As for your partents. It's going to be really hard, but your going to have to tell them. They will start to notice soon.
I don't know if your partents like your gf or not, but try to sit down with them one night and talk to them. I would start by telling them about her past relationship with her bf. So they understand the situation is was in. And then tell them she found out. Tell them that you still want to be her friend and be her bf until you and her decide other wise and that you want to help support her as much as you can and that you would really like it if your parents supported you and your decision as well.
you need to decide on how you would like to support your girl friend. Your young too and taking on the respocibilies as a parent is very tough. It's up to you if you want to take on the roll as dad... but don't be scarred or afraid to be honest and say your not ready for that... there are lots of other ways to help... and being there for her and during her pregnancy is an awesome start.
you have lots of thinking ahead.. good luck, for you and her.
... most people seem to be commenting on the "money side" of your support question... you are still young and this is her responcibility but your support doesn't have to be monitary. Just being a friend and emotionally supporting her can make a world of difference.
2006-08-29 10:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by cougardame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your gf still has options if you know what I mean... you can still be there for her but she has to let her ex know that shes having a baby .. because i hope she does not expect you to be the father to her baby.. you cant be a father type in this situation because your still young and have our whole life ahead of you. Most likley you two will break up because after she has the baby she will have other priorities and responsibility to take care of. If you going to break up with her just tell her your not ready to be in this type of relationship considering the circumstances.
2006-08-29 10:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by twiinsgirl316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you gotta think about is love worth it?Do you love her that much?People do come with baggage you know.Your going to have to either except that or get out while you still can.And your parents arent going to except it because your so young.They're going to assume you dont know what love is and tell you that you have the rest of our life to go through and you dont have to commit to someone who's already jeperdized they'res. And maybe you need to figure out what love is before you make that commitment.If you were in love you would know it.
2006-08-29 11:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a bigger man then allot of them out there are. If you want to stay then that's wonderful but you have to realize that this child is not yours and she has not right to make you feel like it is. If you chose to leave I'm sure she would understand as well. You have to go with what your gut says.
2006-08-29 10:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your school's guidance councelor, or a pastor (if you're afraid of talking to your or her parents). Both of you need help beyond what yahoo answers can give you. Note that your (and her) parents will find out soon enough, if not already. You're too young to carry such a burden. Go talk to them or someone (an adult) at church or your school
2006-08-29 10:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by curious1223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to be with her thats fine...if you care about her thats all that matters, Your parents may feel funny torwards her but if that are understanding parents they will have no problem with it...just try to find the right time to tell them, when they are not busy with work,,,,and nothing else is stressing them out..I'm a 37 yr old father of 2 kids...and have almost seen everything in life not much surprises me anymore...good luck
2006-08-29 10:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋