my fiance' and I are expecting a baby in April?

Question

my fiance' and I are expecting a baby in April, but he seems to act differnt around me sometimes, it's not bad but he wont tell me what he is thinking, he hasnt told his mom yet cause he thinks she will freak out, what do I do?

Answer 1

From someone who was in a similar situation (but handled it better than your fiancee is) he is probably very disconserted. I too was worried about telling my parents, but we had to because we needed the extra support. I can't speak for certain about your fiancee, but I hope that he is just disconcerted and a bit freaked out (becoming a parent is a major life change, as I am sure you know), but give him time. I do recommend not pushing him too hard with the tell the parents thing yet, that may be too much stress for him.

Good luck

Answer 2

I would ask why he wont tell his mom about you been pregnant. Maybe he just thinks its way to early. Have you told your parents yet if so then he should have told his parents. Well really you both should have told all of the parents. You are both engaged.

and even tho this has happened now rather then after you guys were married his mother may freak out as she would have

rather you both waited until you tied the knot. But its not up to her. I was not ready to be a grandmother but as my daughter was in a live in relationship I knew it may have happened. I was disappointed at first as I was not ready to be a grandmother yet.


But in the long run I think its wonderful she now has 2 wonderful girls and I love them both. I now love been a granny and yes I am young but others are more young.

if he wants to wait then make a time say to him we will have to tell your mom by the time I am X weeks and no later. Good luck.

Answer 3

Was this a planned pregnancy? It sounds like he's still freaked out and is trying to come to terms with the fact that he's going to be a Daddy and his life is about to change in some very big ways. Give him a little more time. But if he starts acting like a jerk don't stand for it, put your foot down and let him know what you expect from him. If he's still not ready to tell his Mom in a week or so tell him that it has to be done and offer to tell her or go with him when he tells her. She shouldn't get too mad about it, you are already engaged.

Answer 4

Everyone reacts differently when they hear that their lives are going change forever. I would give him time, but at the same time... be cautious and find out why he's so spooked. He should be ecstatic, and shouting it from the rooftops that he's going to be a Dad!
You need all the support you can get right now, and he should give you to opportunity to get that love and support from his family too! Besides, if you're already engaged, you should feel comfortable in talking to his Mom about this issue. She might be very happy to find out that she's a Grandma! Don't give up on him yet... Baby's have a way of making people a little crazy! Good luck!

Answer 5

my guy was the same way at first. It's really just a shock. Give him time to let it set in, it may take a while for him to get used to knowing he'll be a dad. As far as the whole mom thing goes, my fiance was afraid to tell his mom too, she always acts like he such a looser, but she was really happy actually and now everything is good. Give him some time and soon you'll have a bouncing baby and all will be great. :)

Answer 6

If you're expecting in April and this is August then you obviously have just found out you're pregnant and can't be more than 4-weeks along. Is it possible he's not sure about being ready to be a father and so he hasn't told his mother yet because he hasn't come to terms with it himself?

Answer 7

It sounds like you are pretty early in your pregnancy. . . so maybe he wants to hold off on telling his mother the good news., but I would work on your relationship with him- - Why would his mother freak out??? You need to try to get him to speak to you and try to make him understand that a baby will not in anyway interfere with his plans and/or education or job and that he is not the only one responsible for this baby but that you are also going to be there for him... Unless, he is not sure of the relationship... Maybe, you should sit with him and tell him that you are really thinking about your relationship and that you are starting to question whether he wants to be in it?? Maybe, that will in someway make him realize that his actions are bringing doubts to you and that you really need to find out what his feelings and thoughts are because you do not need to go through this especially now that you are expecting.. Do not pressure him too much, but see what you are able to get out of him... If you already told your parents, bring that up to his attention and let him know that your parents already know and if his mother were to know that she was the last one to know, she is not going to feel very good and she will feel left out and that is going to be more painful for her....Also, you have to make him feel secure and make him feel as if this does not interfere in your relationship neither and do not act like you are disabled, you need to make sure that you act the same, many women tend to act like they are disabled when they are pregnant and I think that turns a man away... I am pregnant and I am up and about, get on my treadmill and make it an enjoyable pregnancy with my husband not a burden on him like he needs to be treating me like I am disabled... Be seductive, turn him on at nights, be sexy, men at times feel pregnancy means no sex or intimacy, show him that is not the case., show him that you are a sexy pregnant woman, and keep him excited and wanting you... Many women tend to get really lazy because they are pregnant, and that is just an excuse. . . .

Answer 8

ask his mothers and fathers in the event that they have have been given one planned or get them to ask her kin and why shouldn't you do cocktails if its purely a million guy or woman who's pregnant why ought to all human beings else pass over out

Answer 9

i would tell her myself if she don't like it what does it have to do with u still gone have the baby. tell him to step up and be a man. she didn't freak out when u got married y should she care about the baby she should be happy

Answer 10

He's scared, and maybe slightly depressed and unsure of the future, he is probably ashamed of these feeling is afraid how you would react if he told you. If you go to him and tell him, " hon I know you maybe scared, unsure of the future, and maybe even a little depressed at how your life will change, but I love you, and it's okay to have these feelings, lets please talk about them, so we don't have tenion between us."