Do you worry more about the wedding itself or life after the wedding. I've often seen people on talk shows talking about how they didn't know life would be like this after the wedding. They thought everything would just go perfectly. I think people should be preparing more for their future together, than the wedding. I mean which is more important of the two.
2006-08-29 10:24:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married for 8 years (today is my anniversary). Marriage is no walk in the park and I think people should realize that before they decide to make that type of commitment. It is more than just that one wedding day. You have to think about the fact that you have vowed in the eyes of God to stay w/ this person until "death" do you part. People should ask themselves questions that they think won't matter but somehow do. Sometimes it's the smallest things that break up a marriage and you have to remember that you come into a marriage as an individual and to keep your identity. You definitely worry more about the married life more-so than the wedding.
2006-08-29 10:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by Pear Cakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worry more about the wedding! I am prepared to deal with the life afterwards...but putting together the wedding itself is driving me nuts! We want to have a very simple fun thing, and some family members are not so sure about it, telling us we will "regret" not making this day "special" (i.e., not throwing $10,000 party for 200 people). Truthfully, trying to make everyone happy, as well as being happy ourselves, is the most stressful part of getting married!
Life together should be a piece of cake after that.
OK, to be serious, I am now old enough to know that no one is perfect - not me, not my future husband; I'm not expecting things to go "perfectly" - rather, I feel that as long as we have love and respect for each other, we can work together on building a good future for us and our kids. So, I can't really say I'm "worried" about anything that might come afterwards.
2006-08-29 10:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is surely the life after that. Wedding ceremony and even including the preparation may take just a year long the most. But the life after that is talking about the rest of your lifetime.
Gaining marriage identity as well as a spouse often results in losing most of your things unknowingly. Most people can't see this point. You may reduce or total lost of :
Your friends
your personal time
your financial lost
your way of living from single to sharing with others. etc..
Don't mean to discourage marriage in any way. Just a pointer here to share that pre-marital thoughts should consider the above and agree to losing them before agree to a marriage.
2006-08-29 10:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life after the wedding is more important. That is why I didnt have a "wedding". Mynow husband and I went to a local church one night and asked the preacher to marry us. And life has been amazing ever since. I didnt need a big over the top wedding.
2006-08-29 10:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life after the wedding, definitely. The wedding lasts a few moments, life lasts a lot longer!
2006-08-29 10:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wedding didn't cost that much, we put the money that my parents gave us for the wedding into the down payment on our house. So I would have to say we were thinking more about the future we were to have.
2006-08-29 10:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the future. The wedding is just one event of many in one's life, but marriage is (supposed to be) a lasting commitment.
2006-08-29 10:28:11 · answer #7 · answered by ildjb@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forever is a long time. Wedding is what, an hour at most?
2006-08-29 10:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very surprised at how much people concentrate on GETTING married rather than BEING married. That's what makes brides freak out over stupid stuff like when the fruit cups are served at the reception. They think that stuff MATTERS. It seems very shallow to me.
2006-08-29 10:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by CuteWriter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
exactly
2006-08-29 11:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by Gurlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋