Why is it that we all give up when it comes to our marraige. I'm a divorced man who cheat on my exwife. I have found God now. Who is the first to cast a stone, and why should I not be able to work things out with my exwife. I too was hurt and I have found It in my heart to forgive my exwife. Now can someone explain to me why we can not forgive each other. Is it pride.
2006-08-29 10:15:40 · 10 answers · asked by justmeap 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No not pride. You broke a promise, you rejected your wife by cheating on her. It is hard to gain trust again. Even if she had forgiven you, she would always wonder when you are out, who are you with, do you think about her, was she prettier, what does she have that I don't, why did you cheat, did I fail you in some way. I am sure you've heard the saying, Once a cheater, always a cheater. You get married for a reason, to be with that one person the rest of your life, to share good times, bad times, to trust/confide in each other, to be there for each other. I am glad that you have found GOD, that is extremely important, just pray for your wife and leave it in God's hands.
2006-08-29 10:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by serr1340 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is the hardest thing to do. We as humans like to hold on to things for revenge or to throw back in the others face. Yeah, this is so wrong, but it happens. It would be great if it were different. God forgives us no matter what, all we have to do is ask and he forgives. Humans are another story. I don't think it is pride. I think we hold onto things we shouldn't hold onto. I think your going to have to forget about working things out with your ex. You have to think of it as another life entirely. Now that you have found God, move on in the direction he wants you to go. Speak your peace to your ex so that you can get everything off your chest, but be strong enough to turn away if that is her wish. If she won't forgive you, then it's not your problem. You can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do. Good luck to you and bless you.
2006-08-29 10:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not pride it just you both lost all trust in each other it will never be the same move on with someone new and be honest and respectful this time around don't make the same mistakes and a new woman that does not know your past will admire your loyalty,and admire you for being such a good new man that you are i think people can learn from there mistakes and in some cases it makes them a better person however they should not have to pay for their mistakes forever if your ex cant forgive you move on your both always going to have the past in the back of your heads
2006-08-29 11:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband cheated on me, I would forgive him, but I sure wouldn't work things out with him. If a person can say marriage vows and then not give them a second thought when fresh meat comes around, he's not worth my time. Your ex- wife obviously doesn't trust you and has no desire to work things out with you, only for the chance of it happening again. Good for her!
2006-08-29 10:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not pride. When you hurt somebody you love it is difficult for that person to accept it because the trust and love was too painful for her to accept unless she/he is a christian.
We all make our own mistake in life until we finally realize of the pain we causes in one another. So your wife still angry at you and for you just slow down and do not push the issue to her. Give her time.
2006-08-29 12:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by leyte6519 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to forgive her? Did she cheat too? And what does God have to do with it? You found God after you cheated? He wasn't around before? I have little sympathy. I would say move on, she has every right to not want to forgive. And please don't use God as an excuse to get forgivesness, he was there all along you just failed to let your penis listen to him.
2006-08-29 10:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by metalicgirl69 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, it's about trust. Once that line is crossed, there is no going back.
Good on ya for the religion thing, now go find a cool church going girl that's new. Remember to learn from your mistakes and don't do it again.
2006-08-29 10:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i mean in some caes it is but its difficult letting g of things....i mean deep down you want to forgive and forget but doing both sometimes isnt impossible..life is short you make mistakes but seriously you choose to make a mistake instead of doing the otehr way around...feeling bad is not really important right now cause you realized wat you did and you shoukld of gone the other way around......sometime its a lil to late for things to be forgiven...its to much pain...there is pride included but wat good does it do when the done is already done...well i dont kno if this has helped you but keep in touch
2006-08-29 10:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not pride, it's common sense... Your ex-wife is smart enough to not want to have anything to do with a cheater like you. Get over it.
2006-08-29 11:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
we are all human. and besides that trust is a hard thing to gain back.
2006-08-29 10:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by lindsay g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋