I have a bit of a problem.
But please don't say work on you school or something like that.
Me and my boyfriend are together every once in a while and I'm not allowed to go places by myself, And I want time allown with him, not to do anything bad like sex but just to hang out. What should I do, He lives really close to my house and he's allowed to go places by himself. We have an ally that opens up to a gate so i guess he could meet me there, but I want to hear from you guys. Thanks.
2006-08-29 10:13:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Come on guys i asked not to say things like your to young stay in school
2006-08-29 10:37:20 · update #1
You will have to deal with it until you are 18. Be a good girl and do what your parents say! I will not allow any of my kids to do anything by them selves until they are 16.
2006-08-29 10:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't start sneaking around to meet him or you will definitely lose your parent's trust and they might think you are having sex and then they'll get really tough on you. How old are you? You need to show your parents you are responsible enough to be in a relationship. For now accept their rules but ask them what you can do so you can gain a little more independence, keep in mind that with along with any independence you may gain, responsibilities to them and yourself go along with it. Have your boyfriend over to your house a lot, let your parents get to know him as a person too. That's really about all you can do, it might not seem like it right now, but your parents are really trying to do what's best for you, and 99.9% of the time, they are right. Good Luck.
2006-08-29 10:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand you wanting to have privacy, but your parents have put "guidelines" and restricted your visits to being supervised for very good reasons. What is wrong with going out with other couples? You still have you're time together, but you aren't put into a bad situation either. (I don't know you're age, but you sound like a teenager.) Adolescents have too many hormones and are too emotional to realize the consequences of certain actions. You may feel like you'd be able to say No right now, but if you were alone, and you felt pressured... and you're body says Yes... that No, just might not come out. It's better to listen to your parents, and stay supervised for now.
If you can show them that you can be trusted, then maybe they will slowly give you more freedom and privacy.
2006-08-29 10:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents have rules for a reason, the main one is that they care about you.
As he lives close to your house, hopefully your families know each other, and that helps.
Perhaps you could talk to your parents, and see if there is some compromise. I know it sounds very old-fashioned, but could he walk you home from school? Agree what time you will be back AND STICK TO IT. Maybe he could come to your house? You could stay in the kitchen, whilst your parents are in the sitting room?
This is all about building trust. Whatever you do, don't lie to your parents, and don't try to cheat.
2006-08-29 10:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you sneak out with your boyfriend. It ruins the trust that your parents will have for you. It also causes your parents not to like him. Do you want that?
If he respects you he will not want you to risk being in trouble with your parents. Why do you need alone time with him? Ask your parents if he can come to dinner. Your parents can meet him and they establish some type of trust.
If you want to be treated as a mature young adult, dont do something as childish as being sneaky.
2006-09-04 08:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by exhaling2day 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but that's what happens when you are still young. There's a reason you aren't allowed out alone, and it's your safety. Do what you can under supervision, and thank your parents for caring about you. My mom was the same way, and I hated it, but now I have my own kid and I intend to do the same thing.
2006-08-29 10:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by Angela M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do what i did, because iv been through this..... tell your parents that your going to the movies with one of your girlfriends and her mom and then meet your frien at the movies and make sure shes with her mom and ask your friend to tell your mom that their gonna just watch a movie and eat dinner..... but then when your mom leaves be like ok thanks and go meet your boyfriend somewhere.... ok well there bye
2006-09-04 19:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then have him over to ur house if sex is not the problem then u should b fine with just hangin out there under supervision
2006-08-29 10:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should group date only with him , until you are 18. Your parents have these rules for a reason.
2006-08-29 10:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be upfront with your parents, they may allow more if you try to be honest, or they might be like over-protective, stupid parents. Only one way to find out.
2006-09-04 07:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jeremy D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋