I'm in a relationship with this guy whom i am starting to fall in love with. I fell in love before and it really hurted me when we broke up. Now, this feeling of Love is coming back and it kinda scares me because I felt so lost when i lost that person. It scares me so much that i get more insecure when i find out some girls like him. I don't want to make him feel like i don't trust him. What do you do when you're in this kind of situation. How do you not let fear take over on something that can be such a great relationship?
2006-08-29 10:12:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because you were hurt before and the fear of the unknown scares you.
2006-08-29 10:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear I need to let you know that just because you got hurt last time does not mean that you will get hurt again because it is a different man. However I understand perfectly where you are coming from because I myself it seems like when I fall in love with a man that he ends up hurting me and leaving me. But I learned that once you realize that you have to be an individual and happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else. And you will see that if you are he can only add to that happiness and if he isn't there well it may hurt but my dear you will still be happy because you have yourself. You must learn that one can only have (themselves) in this world because you not ever completely trust someone like you can yourself. Don't let your fears ruin something that could turn out to be awesome and great and be the man for you.. Life is about chances and risks and if you don't take them then you never get hurt or burned..
2006-08-29 18:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by cheryl m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhmm.. as for my experience i've been hurt from my past relationships and everytime i start a new one i have this fear that i'll get hurt again and again and it did.... thing is, when loving, tis not like a bed of roses.. you can never appreciate a certain relationship if you havent gone through happiness, pain. there is what we call sacrifice.. because of love...
if you can and can avoid.. dont let fear come into the picture..this is one reason why relationships would end up broken...
take the risk.. coz love isnt love if you havent risked at all... at least, there's someone new that comes along.. that loves you and you love them too...
everybody has somebody at the right place and time... you just have to keep your eyes open... no relationship is perfect, tis how you make it perfect for you...
love til it hurts, hurt til it hurts no more and be ready to love again... overtime you will realize whats your worth...
you may not know this guy u fell in love w/ right now, could be the one for you .. .. make the most out of this relationship... that's one of the essences of being in love..
and most of all, love yourself...
communication is the key.... you have to let him understand what you have gone through.. and there comes in the word, respect... if he does love you, then he would understand.. and maybe he would also do his best that you won't get hurt again
learn from your past... if there are things that you think are reasons for the breakup.. then quit it.. do better in this new relationship you have..
hope you understand what im telling... as love is a many splendored thing...Ã
2006-08-29 19:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by yen yen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be self confident and believe in yourself. He is with you. You are worth it. Just because you had a bad experience doesn't mean that all men are going to treat you the same. He is his own person, treat him as such. Let the fear go, it isn't going to do anything for you but cause you pain in the long run.
2006-08-29 17:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to feel that way, you know it feels bad getting hurt, but try to stay positive, and know that if you dont open yourself then others cant love you!.. Time will let you trust a guy again!
2006-08-29 17:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Flopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first heartbreak is always the worst sweetie, you just need to move on. the feeling of loss, pain is a teacher, and it has taught you that love has its consequences, but it is also a liar. sure, you will be careful, but that shouldn't stop you. follow what your heart says, but cautiously.
2006-08-29 17:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by allena s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because ur heart doesnt want to be broken again...its the story of life..and it sucks!
2006-08-29 17:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by gel_is_now 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋