Question for anyone who is happily married...?

Question

When did you know your spouse was "the one"? How could you tell?

I am 25 and newly single. I want to get married and I want to know how you know your with the person you will marry. And how much time you should give a relationship before moving on.

I mean I want to eventually get married.

Answer 1

well it is a feeling you have when you are near someone you truly love, and would do just about anything for,
it is the little twinkle in their eye when they see you, the happiness in your laugh when your with them, the warmth you hadn't had until your in their arms, its a feeling from inside that radiates to the world you are truly loved and cared for

Answer 2

Sometimes you know right off the bat but you still need to give it at least a year or more before making any long term commitment such as marriage. You know it is the right person when you are spending most of your time together, you get along well, you have some common interests, when you are not together you talk on the phone all the time. You make time for that person and he does the same for you. Everything is unconditional that you do for that person. Loving someone should not feel like something you have to do, you want to do it. If you are not getting the commitment around the 2-4 year timeframe and that is something you desire, then that would be the time to move on. You can talk to the person in the begining to see what their feelings are on marriage. The only problem is that sometimes men will say they will get married to keep a good woman around, when they really have no intentions of a future with her. Their actions, in time will tell you.

Answer 3

I was 23 and he was 27. We've been married almost 29 years and he is still the one. Why? because he was my best friend and later on he became more. How did I know? I felt it! All the other guys I dated just didn't compare to how I felt with being with him. I have no regrets with the decision I made. I've been very blessed and very fortunate. How much time you should give a relationship is all up to the two people involved. Some couples a year or more some less. Just depends on the individuals. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

well I was in a bad relationship for 8 years. My ex was an alcoholic drug addict. I got involved in the drugs. We were getting nowhere in life and thought moving away would fix everything. So we drove 3200 miles away to start over. He went back to drugs and I went to a women's shelter. While living in the shelter I met a guy. I didn't want to give up on my husband yet so I kept things between the new guy as friends only. After three months my ex was worst than I had ever seen him. I filed for divorce. I started to dated the new guy and we were just married last year. We have been together 5 years now. We have had our up and downs but we are friends and help each other out. I know he's the one because I feel God sent me on this journey to meet him. He is the love of my life.

Answer 5

Moved calforina to be with girlfriend and she broken up with me and then I met other woman we become girlfriend and boyfriend she so nice to me and everything I broken up with her 4 months and then went back to my ex girlfriend and got married and didn't work out for last 8 months threat 4 times want divorce.. so I ended.

Knowing that my exgirlfriend second one Took me 5 years to take her back to my life and I know she is my first and last. and I only had sex with her before I went back to my exgirlfriend. So, I called her each year for her to see me and finally she did. Met in june 97 and got married oct 31 97 and married for will be 9 years and have 2 kids are Daughter is 3 and son is 2 and 3rd on way due in march 07...

I knew she the one I should get married first one I should stay with my girfriend and get married and if we did we would been married for 14 years but didn't happen but I have learn so much.

Yes we do have up and down during marriage and never stop loving her and never though leaving or cheating or antyhing on my wife ...

This is a true family I have been looking for... better than my mom, dad, and sister. smiling.

Answer 6

i been happily married for over 8 years. the only thing i can say is to talk, lesson, and no mater what happen in you life that you will be there for that person. i love my wife very much and her and i have gone throw all sorters of bad things that can destroy a married and by talking and lessening her and i now have a very powerful relationship and married life.. and on a side not don't let you friends tell you what do or not to do you are your own person and you will make the right answer at the end... good luck

Answer 7

I met my husband in Feb. '02 and married him in Dec. '03. We'd both been married before and the marriages failed. We are in our late 40's. For us, its mutual respect, communication, things in common and intense love. Love that is so powerful you think you'll die without the other person, and that love is returned. Never in my life have I been loved like this. You will usually KNOW. With my ex I knew something was OFF. We had lost all respect for each other and then love died. Sad as it was, I'm so glad it happened. My NOW husband & I were just ready for each other. Years of pain and struggling and we both grew to mature, and become wiser. I asked a therapist once - why couldn't I have met him before? And she answered - because you two weren't ready for each other... At 25, you are very young yet. Give yourself a lot of time to find YOU and become someone worthy of true love. In other words - love yourself first and the rest will come.

Answer 8

My husband and I were best friends for 4 yrs before getting married. On the 3rd yr of our friendship I knew that he was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. We felt like we were soulmates. We just connected in all levels. The following year after that he proposed to me and now 2 1/2 yrs into the marriage, our relationship just keeps getting better and better. I just KNOW I made the right choice.

Answer 9

I met my husband at 23 in 2003. I knew within 2 weeks I would marry him. We married in 2005 when I was 25.

Answer 10

I met my Husband at 21 when I least expected it. For me, I knew he was the "one" based on our great bonding, not only was he boyfriend material but also best friend material as well. I thought about him all the time and I always wanted to be with him, but that's my experience. Each individual will have their own experience and their own keen sense of knowing if the person is the "one". The duration of the relationship and your age depends on you and your relationship and whether you are committed, responsible and in love to take the next step. Follow your heart and marry your best friend in the world!!! LOVE U GEORGE!!!!- YOUR WIFA 4 LIFA!!!!!

Answer 11

This may sound silly, but the first day of college I was with talking to some people in my orientation class about what we were doing for lunch. My wife (we've been married for 11 yrs) walked up and began to talk to one of the others, and I just knew she was the one for me, even though I was dating someone else at the time. It would be another 6 mos before we began dating, but I knew she was the one for me.