Thinking of doing a research paper on this topic if I can find enough information on the topic. Any opinion will be greatly appreciated. (please feel free to direct me to websites or books pertaining to this subject)
2006-08-29 10:00:03 · 5 answers · asked by EJ M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I divorced when my daughter was 4. We hadn't really lived together since she was 2.5 years old, so she has no memory of her father as a part of the family. He was mostly the annoying man who showed up once a year and made her miserable.
According to her (what she tells me), she had a wonderful childhood, and since she went to school with other kids who had parents divorce...she wasn't "odd". She also was grateful that I divorced her father when she was young rather than waiting to do it when she was in her senior year of high school..like several of her friends went through.
I suspect the telling factors are:
1. how the parents deal with the kids and each other. If you behave like the adults you're supposed to be, and consider what's best for the child, I think it can be much easier on a child.
2. Age of the child at the time of divorce. My daughter was young, and had no real memory of him, and since we lived on opposite ends of the country...there was no fighting in front of her.
2006-08-29 12:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my mom was crying to an older lady friend about being a newly single mom twenty years ago, the lady said right in front of me, "As long as their mother is all right, the girls will be all right." She was trying to encourage my mom to be cool. If the parents act like it's the end of the world, and go into a huge depression, act crazy, or act out their heartbreak in front of the kids, the effects can be life long and can result in serious personality disorders, I should know, because my mom did NOT take that lady's advice. LOL haha! But if the parents are able to move on into a healthy life, and show the kids it will be OK then the kids will be totally fine. All of their friends at school are probably from divorced homes already too.
2006-08-29 22:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and father divorced when i was 8 (I'm now 25) in my family it was for the best but they went about it all the wrong way and its only now that my father has passed away that i realize just how wrong it was done my mother as much as love her was an evil cow-whom said things on my behalf that should never have been said which led to me loosing contact with my father and his side of the family and it was only when dad dies 5 yrs ago that i was able to get to the truth and get back in touch with his side of the family in my case the short term effects were for the best but in the long run my head has been well and truly screwed don't know if this has helped you but it has made me think a bit more and now i am so against marriage that myself and my partner will NEVER marry although we have two children together!!!
2006-08-29 10:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my parents divorced when i was younger. The short term effects were me only having one parent around at a time and feeling different from everyone else. The long term effects are not having a good relationship with either parent.
2006-08-29 10:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it relies upon on the youngsters, working example, my mothers and fathers have been given divorced while i grow to be interior the third grade, and it did no longer fairly influence me, yet some infants, they have emotional issues, their grades go through and each little thing, and the long term outcomes are that they would not decide for to get married because of the fact they may be afraid they are going to ought to break up or something, you ought to easily circulate to the library and seek for divorce non-fiction books, and that they ought that should assist you to, whether you study novels on it.
2016-10-01 01:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋