Social abnormality?!?

Question

so recently, i havent been eating as much as i used to. i have no idea why. i am NOT anorexic. it's just that im never hungry anymore. i barely eat breakfast and lunch. especially on a schoolday. i cant finish my tiny little sandwich (last year one sandwich wouldnt be enough at ALL) or my snacks.

plus i feel like i dont connect with ppl in school. i only hang out with my friends at lunch. but during classes, i know NO ONE. its sad. nobody talks to me (i know I should be talking to them, but im REALLY shy)

teachers call on me to answer stuff and I just have like NO idea. so all i say is "i dont know..." and it just gives people the image that i have no confidence and im stupid. I dont want that to happen! and it's only the second day of school and all my classes involve speech making and introducing others for like 2 minutes. I hear that we will be making like 3 speeches this year and i have no idea what to do. I am scared. I really need help.

can anyone help?!

i swear i am not depressed. i dont feel it.

i tell my mom how i feel and she tells me it's nothing and that im spoiled. she practically doesnt listen to me. so there's no help

Answer 1

just try your best to be a little bit more outgoing.

Answer 2

Well now. It's understandable to be shy and it sounds like you are in a new school where you simply haven't had the time to make new friends. I too used to clam up and go blank whenever a teacher would ask me a question in front of the class. The only suggestion I can tell you there is to keep your notes on your desk...as soon as the question is asked look at your notes...it's right in front of you and you can answer it...find your voice.
The change in your appetite could be hormonal and is nothing to worry about as long as you eat enough to stay healthy and aren't purposefully starving yourself. Try having more eye contact with people and smile as often as possible...people will notice you more and actually start speaking to you. Say hello when someone locks eyes with you...you never know,it might lead to conversation. I used to be painfully shy to the point that my folks thought I was agoraphobic and had a social anxiety disorder...well after puberty that all changed. I found my voice and you will too...Reach for the stars...you can do anything you set your mind to...and if your parents don't talk to you about your issues then go to a school counselor or to a family friend...someone will have some good advice for you and hear you out...

Answer 3

First of all, that is not depression . Your just afraid you'll say something wrong right.. I do it all the time.. In class Im extremely open though.. but speeches.. uhh don't turn out to good... lol I tryed to make a speech one time.. and I don't have any idea what do ever how they got the asumption, but they thought I was talking about killing myself , but in reality was talkin about life in which children have to go through.. See. this year Im going to try to be in a play...Open up yourself to others.. start small and try to find something in common with the people that sit around you in class. If you know the answer in class.. answer it.. if you get it wrong the least that can happen is they explain it to you.. If the other people laugh, then they are just imature... If you need anything else... just add me [e-mail].. have fun with school and it will be much better..

Answer 4

Dear, you are only shy. You have to try and be sociable. You want fiends?, you'll have to change your image, and maybe the way you dress but more you have to definitely look self-confident upon others but still be yourself. You do not beg for friends, they will show up but you will have to get rid of part of your shyness. The only way to be heard is to talk out loud literally speaking and to let yourself be seen. When you walk into school in the mornings you can say "good morning" or "hi" if someone smiles at you and that will be more than enough. Walk with your head up high and try looking real sure of yourself. If not you won't like how people will make fun of you or consider you a nerd. On the other hand, I'm so sorry you mom doest advice you. I'm a mom and old enough to tell u how this works. Oh and please, forget about you being stupid, get rid of that. And don't go on thinking for others on the way they look at you or feel about you. It's only you who can change this but acting the contrary. Get involved in something you do good, sports or any other. And please "bury your complex". You will succeed, I know, so go for it honey. GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

You know I dont think its depression, people always assume depression and suggest going to a doctor and then become even more messed up. Here is your problem:

You have a fear on speaking in front of others. Thats it, thats all it is. You keep thinking about the speeches that you will have to do for the year that it scares you so bad that you cant even eat.

-Trust me I know a lot of people who have this fear, about half the population is more scared of public speaking then death so this is totally normal.

SOLUTION: Preparation is key. When giving the presentation in class use note cards. Practice in front of a mirror and try to study what you are going to say. Dont memorize the cards you will forget and then stumble on your words.
As for being called on in class~this will be an easy one, next time your in class look around and see if people are really paying any attention. No body cares what you say and are probably writing notes or drawing in their notebooks. be prepared to answer questions in class, if you answer them before the teacher calls on you then you wont be called on again for the rest of the class.

If you have more questions feel free to email me.

Answer 6

Most of the time when someone is depressed they will deny it! So maybe you should go see a doctor, just to make sure. And when giving a speech just imagine them in their underware, it always helped me. So you don't talk to anyone in class, big deal, you are there to learn not socialize. Save the socializing for lunch and after school. If it bothers you that much try talking to the other students. In class try to make a funny joke about what you are learning...or ask them for help. Remember that everyone has fears and everyone is afraid of something.

Answer 7

Talk with someone, a teacher, school counselor etc. about your fears. Many times they can help you with your anxieties, grades, social skills. I did this when I had trouble in Jr. High - my parents were divorcing, I felt I had no where to go, spoke with a teacher daily, believe it or not we are still friends after 20 years.
Also, try getting involved in groups at school like public speaking,music or drama club, they always help boost your confidence level. Good luck!

Answer 8

look just try to talk to people more then you do now. and like you said it's only been a few days you'll make new friends in all your classes.i was like that too and sometimes i'm still like that. and as for the eating it's okay if you dont eat as much. you have to much things on your mind that's probaly the reason why you dont eat. just chill and have fun. if you need any more help email me at broken_pices33962@yahoo

Answer 9

Even if you dont think you are depressed you could be. So I would fist try to get some help for that. Something that might help is if you try to understand your classes and try to make new friends in your classes. I know that it is really hard, but it will help you in the long run.

Answer 10

I agree with Nina. Sounds like depression and anxiety too. Causes loss of appetitie, among other things. Talk to someone, a parent, counselor, teacher, doctor. You can get help and have a normal school year ahead of you.

Answer 11

when you feel down, your appetite could suffer...I know, cuz I barely eat when I'm upset...good luck on finding friends, that's gonna help you the most. Just remember that there are people who love you and if anyone hates you it's because they're jealous.
remember to just be yourself