Hi everyone, well I'm having a huge problem. My ex just came back from Florida. It's been 15 months since I haven't seen him or heard anything from him. I was the one that messed up our relationship, and after I did that I notice how much I missed and loved him. Like they say "you never know what you got untill it's gone". Well now that his back (first: I couldn't belive it, I froze when I saw him) Anyway now that he's back, I've been trying to avoid him. I'm afraid that when I see him in the eyes, I'll just cry. So can anybody give me some kind of advice so I can become his friend again?
P.S. His friend told me (in a good way, not mean) that my ex didn't want me back. And I'm not a brave girl, and I don't have the courage to just walk up to him and talk to him.
Any advice would be great, THANX.
2006-08-29 09:41:30 · 10 answers · asked by gatita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Avoidance is not a solution to your problem. Whenever you run into him or see him, smile and say hello. Put up a lot of courage, after all, you were the one who messed up your relationship. Ask him if he has time to talk to you. If he has, tell him how sorry you are but don't get to the point that you're emphasizing that you want him back. Stick to a friendly conversation.
2006-08-29 10:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by denathene 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for you to still have feelings for him but some guys just give a girl one chance and if they blow it that's it. So, just act natural and ask him how he's doing? How has he been? What had he been up to. But try not to come off as some sort of controlling freak. Let him answer each question before asking the next one. Listen to him.
2006-08-29 09:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're eventually going to have to face him. Try your best not to cry.. but if you do then maybe he will notice how sorry you are for being the one to "mess up the relationship" and maybe he will start to redevelop feelings for you.. or at least know that you care and you two can become friends
2006-08-29 09:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by C-Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough situation. heres the thing; maybe you think you love him. i mean-maybe you want to love him. you could just feel bad for how things ended, and now that you cant have him-you want him. it happens (believe me, it happens)...really look at the situation, were you happy with him, could/did you do everything to have him-to save him. do you feel like your meant to be with him?if so...try and be his friend, you never know...if not...step back and still be his friend. sometimes we cant have what we want-but we still want them to have the best possible...
2006-08-29 09:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by rachey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should ask him one time if you two could get together that night. All depends on what he says after that that will determine your fate with him.
2006-08-29 09:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by wondergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to his friend. Why would you want to be with someone who hurt you. Get some self esteem and move on.
2006-08-29 09:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how u feel an let him know that u want him back an he would want to give u another chance.
2006-08-29 09:47:41 · answer #7 · answered by lilmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to get over your fear is to face it. Don't seek him out, but if you happen to run into him, just say "Hi, how's it going," and keep on truckin.'
2006-08-29 09:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better leave well enough alone. If he wanted to talk to you, he would do it. Since he hasn't, let it go.
2006-08-29 09:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just talk to him if you cry he'll ask "what's wrong?" then you explain. sometimes you have to be brave for the ones you love.......
2006-08-29 09:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by bekka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋