I have recently found myself in love with a young lady that is half my age. I have known this young lady for most of her life, becase her father is one of my best friend. But over the last year and a half, I have come to know her quiet well. In fact, I have fallen in love with her, and she says she feels the same about me. I will not go into things that brought us together, but will say that the time we have spent together have been heaven. I know, or feel, that it might be wrong, because of our age. But we make each other laugh. What should I do?
2006-08-29 09:37:26 · 24 answers · asked by gurgis_clan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm 19 and was in love with a 47 yr. old guy. But he said he was but I guess not as much as I was with him. Age has nothing to do with love, so do as you two please. I wish you two all the best of luck.
2006-08-29 10:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just a physical lust..That is all, she makes you laugh, she makes you feel young again. That is all.. after the physical wears off there will be nothing left..At 28 this woman will change because every 7 years a woman goes through a death period.. Meaning she starts a new beginning, If you stop and see that most divorces happen at that age if you marry young.. At 28 she will feel a disgust at what she did and will want better things with a younger person, at at 35 she will also be into children if she has any. Once the children come, bye bye to your fun-time and you want to start this at that age... She knows nothing about the things you know.. so what will you have to talk about?? You are really not thinking.. Your not in love you are in lust and want to feel that high again when you had it back then.. but it does not last. Her father will hate you.. You are robbing a little girl. This is what you ask yourself.. "If I do this will anyone get hurt?" If the answer is yes, you do not do it... Integrity.. Wisdom This is what you should have now coming to you. You need to find a woman that is fun, and she will be your age and make you feel young , with music, and walks, and things in common, and make it spiritual and once it is spiritual, when your intimacy comes, it is beautiful and it will be lasting.
2006-08-29 09:54:18 · answer #2 · answered by mexico 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the age that's got you miffed. It's because you have know her all her life and her father is your best friend. That's what making you feel that this is wrong. If you didn't have the family history with her and her dad, you would not feel guilty. The both of you might need to go talk to your friend or not. You a grown man and she is a grown woman so be happy in love no matter what.
2006-08-29 09:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's okay. You are both adults. If the situation was different like if you were 53 and she was 14, then that's a different story because most 14 year old girls don't have the same level of maturity a 22 year old woman might have. And if you two are having a good time together, then just go for it. :-)
2006-08-29 09:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by young one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what more is there to say? Age is not important, as long as you are both cognisant of what the relationship entails.Your children, if you have any, might not see it the way you do. In my opinion go for it. Victor Hugo said " There might be snow on the roof, but the fireplace is still working" Not his exact words of course, but close enough. Good luck.
2006-08-29 09:50:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this makes you happy and she is comfortable with then let things go on. I see nothing wrong with it b/c at 22 you are considered a woman. She has the right to make her own decisions. Age is only a number unless your dating a minor. But I say if you'll make eachother happy then let the love continue
2006-08-29 09:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by lil sexy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure this is totally wrong & it won't work for long.She might be impressed by ur mature character or ur knowledge or whatsoever but once she gets sober she will discover that this was never luv.
Luv is about sharing common interests,hobbies & mutual growth.
You should make this clear to her since u r the older and supposed to be wiser.Let her live her youth and remember that u lived it before.
If u really care about her then think about her own benefit not just about yours.
2006-08-29 10:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by Heart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh gosh!!... to be honest & the nicest way to put it..
its ok to date who ever, age doesn't matter (but)
I think since your in your 50's you might not all ways be there for her in the long run..
I would most definately want to be with a man till the day I die , but it dont always go that way ,... I had three men in my past all 3 are diseased!.. i was in my 20's they were there 40's... I hated that he couldnt be with me.. try that 3 times , it will change your mind go on & love but deal with what happens, dont let fear or guilt stop you.. I say if you have b a l l s go fot it!
2006-08-29 09:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by Rock z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably considered "wrong" in most peoples eyes. But it's your reality. Ask yourself this...will you regret stealing her youth when you are 80 and she is still 50? Does she want children? Do YOU? It's heaven for you now, but it could be her hell down the road when you pass away. Ponder those things. The answer lies there.
2006-08-29 09:43:25 · answer #9 · answered by Sausage Fingers™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not ok....she will eventually get board with you....i was 16 & got suckered into a relationship with a guy who was 30 years older than me. I wasn't popular in school , & had no boyfriend, so i was perfict for him to pick up. he made me feel good aboutmyself & we had lots of fun together..by the time i was 18 i reqalized what a mistake i had made & dumped him!! all i was to him was a trophy to show off to his friends!i'm not saying your doing that ,,but trrust me she will lose intrest by the time your 60 if not sooner
2006-08-29 09:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by sasha_mocha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋