I lived with my 2 kids and was very happy and met this person, it started off as a fling then got serious so i moved in, the person didn't have a good life her last relationship she was beaten up and she never stopped talking about it which i was made me feel uncomfortable as i felt she was after pitty, she had 4 kids who seemed okay at first but started to pick on mine,which then caused disruptions, this just tored me up and we split my kids had togo bak to their mother which really ripped me up never experience such heart ache b4 in my life, it deverstated me, anyway we met up again and we got bak to gether and had a son, i just couldn't get to grips with him never felt much for my new son, y i don't know, perhaps i was affraid to feel incase i got really hurt again, all she does it put me down but i know i feel for her and my son but just can't show it, i've never put much into the relationship which isn't good. should i try harder or walk away.
2006-08-29 09:35:53 · 14 answers · asked by bty45311469 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It does not matter what you feel for this woman but you owe it to your son to love and care for him no matter what.
If you and her can be civil and get along even if separated then that would be great but please always put the children (all of them) first.
It is your responsibility to do the best you can for the kids;I hope you can work things out for their sake !
Good luck for the future !
2006-08-29 09:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by any 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't keep running away from difficult situations, or you'll be running all your life. You've already made the huge sacrifice of letting your own children go the first time. Now what?
Besides, you say yourself that you do realise that you actually love them, so, I think it's worth taking a risk.
Maybe you need to stand up for yourself a little bit more; Assert yourself, but don't run away from something you want and are just afraid of.
It doesn't mean that you have to stay in a destructive relationship, but you just owe it to yourself to work for your happiness and stand up for yourself.
Good luck.
2006-08-29 10:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try with your son it isn't his fault he was born, as for your partner you could try some sort of counselling or just talking together as if you feel the way you have described getting everything off your chest often to a complete stranger (eg counsellor) can help A LOT.
2006-08-29 09:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by hippolyta_teen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and give the relationship another chance, she needs counseling, so she can get rid of some of her baggage, you have to give it a try for your Son"s sake, This sounds like this could be a dysfunctional family, crying out for help, ask her about going for help, talking to someone. if she wont go, you go. at least you want more out of life.
2006-08-29 09:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the last comment counselling, for both of you individually and maybe couples counselling too. Its important to try hard to make it work, as it seems its issues that she had that started things off to give you issues next. Try and make it work but if counselling doesn't work do consider your kids feelings too.
2006-08-29 09:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you but why oh why did you not make sure precautions were being taken not to bring this poor child into this world. Don't men ever think about these terribly important things. You both need counselling to stop your child growing up as screwed up as his parents, you owe him this much.
2006-08-29 09:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does she puts you down? Get in control of that relationship man...i think she liked his ex, he liked control, and now with u, who are a good person, she feels that you re weak so she takes control, you need to start to take things in your hands. Tell her to stop complaining about her ex, if it doesn right to you, then tell her: I dont care about him, forget it or shut it.
Act like a man and you ll see things change.
2006-08-29 09:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to be unhappy. You must live your life and not try to change things and people who don't want to change for the better good. You only have one life to live. And you are to live it for you and your kids.
Peace!!!
2006-08-29 10:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by JAMES L J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont walk awy,it doesnt make anything better when u try to walk away from problems,or from pain.try as hard as u think she deserve and do it with your heart!!
2006-08-29 09:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by starlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try harder your child didnt ask to be born, he needs you in his life, of you arent you will regret it
2006-08-29 09:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by emmamac14 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋