husband said I am too "friendly" at church and that I should give men hand shakes and not hugs. he's the one that's been caught giving out his number and lying about small stuff. what's the deal?
2006-08-29 09:32:35 · 18 answers · asked by Skypride 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He feels both jealousy and guilt - you're right on about him!!
2006-08-29 09:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he is worrying you are going to do what he has already done. I just can't help but believe there is a lie covering up something big, if he has also been lying to you about little stuff. There is no crime or infidelity involved in hugging members of your church, even if they are men.
The two of you need to have a serious heart to heart come to God talk.
This can not be a comfortable situation for you at all.
Lots of luck to you.
2006-08-29 16:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's feeling guilty because it's not like your doing anything behind his back. Your hugging a church member in church, in front of your husband how much more in the open can that get. Tell him to relax and if it wouldn't bother you seeing him hug other Church ladies then continue your hugging ways.
2006-08-29 16:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you being friendly becasue you know you are married and you just do hand shake you don't want to hug them make them think you are on coming to them ya know.
and your husband giving out all phone numbers to all women and lying about small stuff and he is guilty... my quesitons is why did he married you first place if he knew not going to be a happy married???
He is a bunches loser. I married to my wife because I love her, so much and I wouldn't never trade with no one in my life for my wife and even for my kids. they are my family and will stay very long time. smiling.
2006-08-29 18:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silly guy of course you have to give hugs at church, your church members are your family in Christ. Hes jealous and anxious cause he thinks you may be doing the same, give him a taste of his own medicine. Keep hugging spread the love (am a huggy person sorry).
2006-08-29 16:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both, if you are a hugging kind of person you just keep being you! I'm sure he knew this about you when he married you. I'm sure that you, on the other hand, didn't know that he would lie and give and continue trying to date after the wedding. Are you sure you want to continue this relationship? He seems to be trying to change who you are but doesn't seem to be willing to even conduct himself like a married man should. Good luck to you!
2006-08-29 16:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering that you are just "friendly" in church shouldn't be an issue. For God's sakes, you're in church! lol. But maybe he's a little insecure because you're giving other men your attention.
2006-08-29 16:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with him, no hugs with the opposite sex. But, he should not be giving out his number to the babes. Remind him that he still has you.
2006-08-29 16:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's both. He's done it before and he somehow "thinks" you shouldn't be doing the same thing even though the things you are doing are completely innocent.
2006-08-29 16:39:30 · answer #9 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say both jealous and guilty! if you feel you need to give huggs then do it. Talk about your feeling to him and he needs to talk to you! Be Honest and Open with each other
2006-08-29 16:39:33 · answer #10 · answered by cruelgirl6915 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FYI-I have noticed that when a guy accuses me of cheating he is the one that is cheating. Just to let you know.
2006-09-02 13:37:10 · answer #11 · answered by Amy Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋