Saturday was my birthday (30th)which was hard to begin with and my father worked extremely hard at making sure everything was perfect! He has an 9ft swimming pool and he provided everything for the party!To make a long story short my fiances father brought my fiance's uncle to my party(without asking)and his uncle started harassing my best friend(who is married),and my dad felt obligated to handle it in a nice manner by talking to my fiances uncle in private about the matter,well...my future father-n-law(who was drunk)started mouthing off to my dad and saying profanities and by the end of the whole matter he ended up punching my dad...and ruining my party!This is the fourth outburst(physical fight)that i have witnessed in three months from my future n law and this is the first time that it has affected me and my family!My fiance is not like this and is nothing like his father,but I am so angry what do I do. He tried to apologize monday,do i accept, do I let him come to wedding?HELP!
2006-08-29 09:31:11 · 4 answers · asked by Shana H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
iOnly if he agrees NOT to drink anything. What scares me is what happens when you have kids? He will be around them too. . I would talk to him one on one and let him know how you feel. Remember, once married, he's there whenever an event may come up, like birthday parties, holidays etc.Chin up & Good luck to ya!!! GaryT
2006-08-29 09:36:47 · answer #1 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your father was doing the noble thing by keeping the peace, your future father in law was way out of order by physically atacking youyr father and disrespecting youat your party,however how does your fiance feel about this ,if he is ashamed of his fathers actions then i would quickly tell him to talk to his father before the wedding as both of you do not want that big day ruined by fist fights do you?Tell your fiance that you have genuine concerns about his father and how he may behave at your wedding, this will hopefully bring his father into realisation that his actions whilst under the influence of alchohol are not an acceptable way to behave and will not be tolerated at your wedding..Belated happy birthday I am 40 now that is scary... Have a very happy wedding day to you both..jane xx
2006-08-29 16:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let him come to the wedding since he is your father's fiance; but I wouldn't go any further than that. The farest you are from him the better off you will be. Try to limit contact with your father-n-law since for the things you said seems he has an anger management problem.
2006-08-29 16:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enough is enough do,nt take risk o.k.
2006-08-29 16:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by ghettu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋