I always seem to upset him. He says I always get on to him about the same things, and he's tired of it. I know I'm driving him away and I can't seem to help it. I know it has alot to do with my jealousy and I have no reason to be......Help me
2006-08-29 09:24:40 · 15 answers · asked by becky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what works for me is to treat him with respect and act the sweetest you can act. no matter how much you might want to accuse or speak out in a way you will end up arguing with him, try to just let it ride. if something really bothers you, find the right time to talk to him in the kindest and most respectful way. remember, it is human nature when people look at other people because they are beautiful, don't let that bother you. he is with you. looking never hurts. he would not be normal if he didn't look.
don't accuse him of anything until you have solid proof. eventually, if it doesn't stop, he will run from you. do this and see the difference, and he will treat you better too. this is the healthy way.
2006-08-29 09:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by mercedes1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about why you feel this way. Where does the jealousy come from, any past issues? You say you have no reason to be jealous with him, but ex's maybe. The way I look at it is this, if he cheats he cheats, but for the rest of the time just let it go, if it happens then you'll move on, but like you say you don't even have reason to think this. If you can't resolve this yourself maybe try speaking to friends or family, or if possible counselling may help, try asking your Doctor to refer you to an NHS counsellor so its free. I suffered for years with jealousy because of my dad cheating on my mum, and counselling helped me realise that all I was doing was pushing people away. I really hope you sort it out, I know its hard but you can change good luck.. Stay strong
2006-08-29 09:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him a little time. don't call him give him time to cool off. let him call you once he has had time to get over it. from now on pick and choose your battles, some things are not worth. also realize that you are the only person that can control your jealousy issues. there is nothing he can say or do that will will stop you from being jealous. there is always going to be someone prettier, smarter, funnier, etc., but he is with you so trust him : )
2006-08-29 09:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if ya'll argue that much maybe you should evaluate if ya'll need to be together in the first place, but besides that maybe you should sit down and talk about it and actually listen but if you are having a problem with your jealousy problem then maybe you are too insecure to be in a long term relationship. Maybe you need to evaluate yourself and figure out if you are really ready to be in a long term relationship. He keeps getting mad at you because you are not listening to him and you are being insecure.
2006-08-29 09:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by badtinky69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems like you need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart talk. ask him about what makes him mad about the things you do or say. then ask him what you can do to fix it. that will let him know you want to and are willing to try and change your ways so you dont drive him away.
2006-08-29 09:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by Andi21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-01 02:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by Icenhour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i learned thT THE MORE YOU MAKE THEM MAD AND BE GELOIUS AND NAG ALOT ,UR ONLY LETTING THEM GET TIRED AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE THAT NICE ,SO IF YOU DONT WANT TO LOSE HIM STOP!!SEE IT THIS WAY HES WITH YOU NO MATTER WHAT ,YOU GOT HIM LET HIMLOOK AT GIRLS BUT DONT TOUCH AND STAIR ALL CRAZY IN FRONT OF YOU ! IM DOING THAT AND IN THIS RELATION SHIP IS MUCH BETTER HAPPYNES AND I FEEL BETTER CAUSE I WAS ONLY MAKING MY LIFE DIFFICALT MORE THAN HIS!!TRY IT AND TELL HIM SORRY AND UR GONNA CHANGE CAUSE YOU LOVE HIM,IF HE DOES SOMETHING WRONG DONT YELL TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM THAT IS BOTHERING MEAND IF YOU DONT WANT ME TO GET CRAZY DONT DO IT
2006-08-29 09:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him. Your insecurity & his lack of compassion aren't meant to be together. Try to act like you aren't jealous or worried or whatever and like you are a 'strong, independent woman who needs no one to take care of her' and it'll probably bring him back though. Stop bothering him & calling him etc.
2006-08-29 09:29:21 · answer #8 · answered by savagescorpio 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write a really sweet love letter of apolagy and mail it to him or if you are still in school slip it in his locker. Good luck!
2006-08-29 09:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Isabella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a new boyfriend.If the two of you keep fighting, you need a break. Obviously he gets on your nerves and you get on his....try a breather
2006-08-29 09:30:00 · answer #10 · answered by rachey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋