My wife recently left. I told her to because she kept complaining because I drank too much. When I got that way I would be rude and obnoxious. It was no big deal. Women please tell me why she couldn't just deal with it. She nagged all the time. I couldn't deal with the nagging. She said it was because I sat home half the time and drank all day. Sometimes I said mean things about her and her friends and family. What did I do so wrong?
2006-08-29 09:22:59 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you might need to attend a few AA meetings. And she needs to attend some Al-Anon. If you do manage to get her back, it sound like you need some marriage counseling.
I'm guessing you are one of those people to turn into someone else while drinking. This is a problem, it sounds like you wife finally got fed up with it. Even if you don't get your wife back I still recommend AA and getting your life together.
2006-08-29 09:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Sherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you drank to much and if she does not drink than that becomes a problem. Second you said mean things about her, her family and freinds. Third you told her to leave so that is a indacation that you did not want her anymore. Maybe she nagged all the time because she was unhappy with the way you where. Drinking is not something that someone just deals with when it comes to a loved one. You have to want to help your self before anyone else can deal with it. Maybe you should go to AA and seek some help and if she loves you enough and see's that you want to change than she can help you and stop her nagging. As I have always been told you can't love some else until you can love your self. Good Luck and if you love her enough you will get help.
2006-08-29 09:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by Board 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you drunk when you wrote that and then forgot what you wrote? HELLO? Is anyone there? You drank...she nagged...you drank more...she nagged...you got mean...she nagged more...you drank even more...she left...now you're nagging. Wake up! If your drinking wasnt a big deal than why did you have to do all the time. Her life consisted of a drunk lazy man that criticized her family, friends, and her. A man needs to understanding, caring, thoughtful, and let me tell you none of those things you have acquirred.
2006-09-02 06:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Amy Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, YOU HAVE AN F'ING DRINKING PROBLEM. THAT'S WHY SHE F'ING LEFT. Nobody wants to be around a drunk. She couldn't deal with it b/c like I said, no one wants to be around a drunk. She was probably nagging b/c she wanted you to stop drinking. Looks like she's opened your eyes a little bit. If you want your wife back then I suggest you join AA. People do things and say things they don't mean when they are drunk and it's the alcohol talking, but what was said and done still hurts. Again, if you want your wife back, join AA get the alcohol out of your system, get back on your feet (ie. work) and show your wife that you can take care of her and yourself. Good luck to you and hope this has helped!
2006-08-29 09:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by MERILEI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of getting along with someone is enjoying being around the person. Part of enjoying being around someone is being treated courteously and respectfully by that person. You treated her discourteously and disrespectfully, frequently, over a long period of time.
You should have tried an experiment: stop drinking and see if she stopped nagging and if your relationship improved. If it had improved, you would have known that the drinking was the cause of the problem, and you could have stopped drinking permanently. If it had not improved, after a good, long period of time (at least 60 days), then you would have been right to blame the relationship's failure on her being hyper-critical (overly nagging).
But you didn't even try!
2006-08-29 09:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you do wrong ?
1. You sat around all day drinking.
2. You called her names when you drank.
3. Your calling her a nag when its you giving her reason to nag.
4. You could care less how she felt.
Now sleep in the bed you made.
2006-08-29 09:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would not be able to understand what is going on. A drunk never sees how things really are in the world around them. The see their own view of things and use this to justify the drinking. I hope that someday you will see the light and get help for your addiction. The day that you finally get free from the alcohol will be the day you finally understand what life with you was like.
2006-08-29 09:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would you like it if your wife sat around all day drinking,insulting you and not really caring about anything else,it sounds to me like you put alcohol ahead of your wife and that is not acceptable in any relationship.It takes 2 people to make a relationship work,if one is not trying,what is the point???grow up and wise up or you will never have a good relationship
2006-08-29 09:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by RJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about that bit*ch. She is on crack man. Why would any women wants to leave you. You are a catch. You are a star, You are all that and a bag of chips. Now that the complaining looser left you can drink your self and wake up dead. cool.. mission accomplished?
2006-08-29 09:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read over what you just wrote and ask yourself why any woman would want to be with a man who is drinking so much. I don' t blame her for leaving, I would have done the same thing.
2006-08-29 09:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋