my sister is a sophmore in high school and has been introduced to drugs and alochol in the past year. she is not addicted to drugs although i know she smokes weed every once in a while. with the alcohol, i dont have that much of a problem with her drinking, because i have always told her i would always come get her in those situations no matter what and not tell our parents (remembering my late high school years when i always wanted someone like that) i'm worried about her grades (she failed three classes last year!!!) my parents grounded her for a very long time... shes just getting out of being grounded and i don't want her to make the same mistakes. how can i talk to her in way that she will think of me as a friend? we've always been close but i dont want it to seem like im just another parent. thanks :)
2006-08-29 09:14:25 · 8 answers · asked by Kayla-Ann 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hey well your in a weird situation but like you i have sisters who im close to. and some of them get really out of control. sometimes as hard as it may be you have got to be mean in order to care. if you keepbacking her up the whole way through life she is just going to walk all over you.
2006-08-29 09:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by kaitlyn t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm older than my sister too, (11 years actually) and what I would do is take her out to dinner and talk to her. If you are at a place where you two can be "friends" you might be able to get through to her and let her know what she is doing isn't right, and that you don't want her making mistakes in high school. I would focus on anything good she has done, too. If she has any good grades you know of, praise her on that. If you jump on her for every bad thing she has done, right off the bat, she's likely to just get up and walk away from you. And don't be bossy. Just try to tell her in your own way that you're worried about her and you love her. That you don't want her doing drugs and being grounded all the time. Tell her how you use to be and you don't want her to be like that. That you want her to be better than that. Good luck to you!
2006-08-29 09:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough love. I went through the same thing with my little sister and now were best friends. Just let her live her own life and let her learn from her mistakes. Talking to her about it when she's that age is pointless. Hopefully she pulls her head out soon and realizes she's messing up. Just be there for her. Good luck. She will snap out of it by senior year.
2006-08-29 09:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to her in a friendly way. a lot of parents talk at their children and don't really listen to what they have to say. if you talk to her and listened to what she is telling you, i'm sure you would both be very happy. She is probably wanting someone to talk to after being told of and put down so much. Because you are her older sister i'm sure she respects you a lot and will listen to your advice. good luck!
2006-08-29 09:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by shmoop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!! How many of has been there.. Maybe if you take out with you.Hang out more with her just so she won't have time to does things. Find a time (in a friendly environment) to speak to her. Show her your concern & speak from the heart. Tell exaclty how you feel & how you don't want her to end up..
Hope it works Good Luck!!!1
2006-08-29 09:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by jejy01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be a big sister and put a stop to this destructive behavior. You must tell your parents before things get out of hand. It seems to me that she is following in your footsteps and if you try to tell her anything about it she will just it back in your face that "you did it". So just be careful and please talk to your parents.
2006-08-29 09:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats very hard but sometimes a sister has to lay down the law if u were very close if u stop her u may get closer
2006-08-29 09:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by nmehra18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her know whats up you know tell her that you know of people that were like that and they ended up not going to college and living with there parents. if you need someone to talk to hey you don't know me i don't know you but we can talk so you can just have someone to talk to email me if you want. :)
2006-08-29 09:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by Oscar T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋