Is it true, that you are born whatever sexuality you are?

Question

I read that, it is in this 'gays, lesbians, etc' book. It just takes time until you realize it. Thus, I was wondering on your personal opinion, whether you think it's true or false.

I'm straight by the way. I'm just wondering about it.
As for the 'chicken and egg' comment. The egg came first.

Answer 1

You are born with whatever sexuality you are

Answer 2

My personal opinion is that while there is very possibly the chance that a person's sexual orientation could be determined before birth, I believe there is also the chance that it could be affected by a baby's or child's relationship with the parents or other adults of each gender.

There are times when one parent acts in a way that a child sees as so negative a child may decide to be like the other parent, who he may instead respect and admire. There are some people who "feel" more one sex or the other in their mind, so it may not take much for such a person to be conflicted. If you consider that no matter what gender someone is there is a range for that gender (degrees of feminiity or degrees of masculinity), and people can be anywhere along that spectrum.

With all the possible factors involved it is easy to see how someone may be somewhere on the fence for a while.

Some gay and lesbian folks do seem to show some kind of anger toward people of their own gender or else to the world, and I don't think that anger is just a matter of feeling mistreated because of the sexuality issue. Some lesbians seem to find anything traditionally considered feminine (like, say, tea cups with roses or pale pink dresses or delicate little shoes) repulsive. You figure, they want to be with another woman and yet they often find feminity repulsive (not always, I know). Then there's the thing where some gay men dress up like someone who looks like Cher in her show outfits rather than, say, dressing up to look like the Olsen twins. There's that thing that some flamboyantly gay men have where they seem to admire that powerful, glamourous, loud,
touch type of woman rather than someone who looks like the Olsen twins. My point is that not all gay or lesbian people are alike or fit into one mold any more than all heterosexuals do.

Some heterosexuals know they like the other gender as early as, say, four or five years old. No question about it - ever.

If its true (and I'm not sure it is, although I think it makes sense) that a person's preferences could be altered during infancy or early childhood it is entirely possible that the gay or lesbian person would feel as if he/she were born that way.

The argument that there have been differences seen in brains doesn't necessary prove anything about being born a certain way, because during the years when a child's brain is developing (particularly the first two years) it is entirely possible that based on the child's environment and nurturing the brain could develop more in one way or another just as it can when it comes to something like developing or having neglected any intellectual process.

Anyway, that's my personal opinion.

Answer 3

Maybe, To simplify your statement, you can be born with male genitals but feel like you are female inside, that is called transexualism. same the other way round. Being gay or lesbian means that you are usually unsure of which way to go. this can be caused by a lack of testosterone in males or lack of estrogen in women. so it isn't just a case of simply being true or false, there is a lot of 'in between' Maybe some serious research on your part would help if you Really need to know.

Answer 4

There was a story on 60 minutes on Sunday 2 days ago. They reported there are many factors in determining sexuality. For instance...there were a set of twins ages 23, one turned out perfectly straight while the other became gay. Genetically, they said, there is nothing that guarantees sexuality. The main factor is the way you are raised and especially your surroundings and environment. A study concluded that the more older brothers a man has, the more likely he is to be gay. When it comes to women being lesbian, there are no determining factors except emotional stability and the distrust they develop of men. I personally think that if you are gay/lesbian...you have a mental disorder that attracts you to the same sex, whether it be a role model you look up to, or just the wierd love of being different.

Answer 5

It's very true. Almost all gay people will agree (we are born gay). However, most straight, fanatical religious people will say it's a choice...they will at the same time say they were born straight. It's very interesting that these people will accept that a human can be born with two DNA's (chimerism), both male and female genitalia (intersexed) - but can't be born homosexual. I assume that most of these people don't have any homosexual friends or family members...otherwise their thinking may be different.

Answer 6

This debates gonna go on as long as the: "What came first, the chicken or the egg" debate.

I think....I don't even know. So many things seem to make up your sexual being that its hard to say the YES, i was born to love men.

Answer 7

I believe it is true. Even though many ppl say that 'homosexuality is the result of conditioning done to the psyche.'
Meaning that say you were raised with two older sisters (by ten or so years) but had no male figure in your life. Therefore they think that you find comfort in a 'woman based pack'.
They also think that it is a 'stage' (idiots) or even a false identity used to hide ones own depression. (freaky dutch geeks!)
I'm a lesbian because i've been so for as long as I remember. Men to me are either friends, or competition to get the girl. I don't do that to 'hide depression.'

Answer 8

I think that homosexuality goes both ways. There are some people that are born with the transgender "hermaphrodite" and then as far as gays and lesbians go I think it is choice. Ive tried lesbianism and it wasnt for me, however im not going to shun the people that are. I dont care one way or another as long as they have good morals and a good personality.

Answer 9

That would be news to the likes of Freud, Adler, Erikson, and other psychologists who identify stages of maturation and development. There is a process called internalization wherein we identify things and make them ours. Children recognize gender differences and generally figure out which side of the coin they belong on and work accordingly, but during adolescence we make connections based upon hormonal inputs. Frankly, I think most homosexuals are recruited at an opportune time when the new hormonal influences haven't fully solidified an identification. Others feel confusion at the conflict of signals while the mind is trying to tie the stimuli together and, again, homosexual recruitment yields great sales results in our mental equivalent of wet cement.

Still, it is an acquired taste that sometimes has great utility. A molested woman finds comfort and affection from fellow females. In the process of empathy, there may be moments of arousal, voila! a lesbian is born.

Further still, there are those moments of ambiguity that began before adolescence, such as when girls think they really should be boys and boys that think they really should be girls. That gets really confusing.

Answer 10

I don't recall ever choosing, only discovering that I was attracted more to other girls than to guys.

I think it's really offensive that straight people say gay people choose to be gay. When did they make a conscious decision to be straight? Try asking a straight person that and see how they react.

Answer 11

I believe that it is somewhere embedded within you when you are born, but it takes being honest with your self to actually know it. I saw myself as straight for 17 yrs then for 5 yrs I was curious. For the past 3 yrs I have considered myself as bisexual. It took self confidence and honesty to realize who I am.