How do you talk to your boss about problem people?

Question

I have a co-worker who is very demanding, demeaning, and literally just doesn't treat me with any respect. How can I bring this to my boss without looking like a "winer?"

Answer 1

Well it really depends on the work environment i.e. is it an office environment v.s. a construction or automachanic shop. The reality is this; where it is an office environment your boss will have to view your complaint as valid though depending on the nature of your complaint (does this co-worker insult or does he just belittle you) which ever is the case this is your right to complain. However if it is a construction or even a mechanic shop should your co-worker sexually harrass you...by law your employer should do something

YOU WON'T LOOK LIKE A WINER IF YOU CONFRONT YOUR BOSS AND SAY;

*"I have a problem working with this individual which in turn affects my work performace"

*" This individual calls me X and Y and this is highly unprofessional and it needs to stop...what are HRs guidelines on this"

Answer 2

Is your boss unhappy in her own personal life? Because this sounds like jealousy to me. It's not so much about him specifically, as that she just can't stand the idea of YOU going off and getting married and living "happily ever after" as it were. Step up your efforts to find another job; the sooner you're out of this toxic woman's presence, the better. I wouldn't bother confronting her, since you may need her for a reference, and confronting this type of person is incredibly frustrating anyway. For any accusation you make, she can claim to have your best interest at heart, and then act all hurt that you're "attacking" her. They say "Living well is the best revenge," because it's true.

Answer 3

If you bring this to the attention of your boss, tell him/her what this co-worker is doing but be specific. Give dates, times, places, what was talked about, and what your co-worker said. It's also a good idea to have other co-workers on your side who could corroborate any stories you tell about your co-worker treating you disrespectfully.

Answer 4

Think about how your boss would react if you did whine. If he is the type that would say, "lets go ask him how he feels about this and to have consideration", then start by telling the boss, "I told the problem worker to stop and have some consideration already, but that didnt work and I dont want to be a complainer but I cant work with this negative energy".

Answer 5

Don't attack the person; attack the behavior. If you bring this to the attention of your boss, tell him/her what this co-worker is doing but be specific. Give dates, times, places, what was talked about, and what your co-worker said. It's also a good idea to have other co-workers on your side who could corroborate any stories you tell about your co-worker treating you disrespectfully. Be as matter-of-fact about it as possible, and make sure your boss gets the message that it's not a personal vendetta -- it's a situation where your co-worker is behaving in a less than professional manner.

Answer 6

I think you mean "whiner." This is a tough one and don't expect the boss to back you. There is no easy way to do this other than just make a list of concerns and bring them to the attention of your boss. Be prepared though, for a noncommittal response.

Answer 7

I am sorry that you feel this way. I would tell my boss that I need to have a meeting with him/her. And let him/her what the problem is and how to take care of it.
Good Luck

Answer 8

First, go to your coworker directly and communicate in "I" language. For example, "When you treat me disrespectfully [be specific about what this person did and when], it affects our working relationship in a negative way. I'd like you to treat me better. Do you think it would help if we met with the boss on this to get his/her input?"

Answer 9

Oh man, you and me both! I have someone that thinks her poo don't stink and everyone else is inferrior. Bugs the crap out of me. Just approach your boss and let him/her know what is going on. Don't try to sound like you are whining but that you show concern. If they are a good boss they should try to resolve the issue. Good luck...I know I don't have any luck with my co-worker. She gets away with murder..even telling the boss to f-off! My boss isn't a working boss. He just lets what happens happen.

Answer 10

You need to state exactly what the co-worker does in non judgmental terms. For example, don't say he is demanding. Say, "Whenever he gives me an assignment he tells me I better have it done in one hour" Be specific and put it in like a question. Like, do you think this is okay, I need your opinion. So you look like you are problem solving, not whining.

Answer 11

Remember the three rules of inter office conflict, That is document, document, document! Then present your evidence to the powers that be!